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DS didn't say his line in school assembley

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Luol81 · 26/11/2017 05:59

Maybe this is silly but am just wondering if I should be upset that my 6 year old DS didn't say his one line at the school assembly this morning. It was only one small line and we had practiced it at home easily. We were not given a script so I didn't know when he would say it exactly, but they were practicing at school last week. Their class teacher was sitting right infront of the stage and I could hear her prompting other children during the show to say their lines so I don't understand why she didn't help him when his turn came? ?? I asked her after the show and she said he might have gotten shy but that it was partly her fault as she got too focused on the other two children next to him who had longer and more lines to say?? I just feel abit upset as he seemed looking forward to his assembley and he thinks he said his line when he clearly didn't?? Sent the video to hubby who was more annoyed then me and wants to complain??

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Vitalogy · 26/11/2017 07:11

The good news is your DS thinks he did say the line - or maybe do you think he’s just saying that to you to save face? I was thinking that too, he might be worried what the reaction would be if he were to admit that he didn't actually say it.

lalalalyra · 26/11/2017 07:13

The teacher has realised she was too focussed on the other two children, she's admitted as such and I'd put money on her not letting that happen again.

What more do you think complaining will achieve? Other than letting it be known to your son that he didn't say his line what will it really achieve?

babysloth · 26/11/2017 07:19

It's threads like this that remind me why I left teaching.

Slartybartfast · 26/11/2017 07:22

He thinks he said his line
perhaps you just didnt hear him.

my dd cried in her first school nativity because I sat at the front and could see her and take her photo .. The teacher had to move her, at her request.

TheStoic · 26/11/2017 07:22

It's threads like this that remind me why I left teaching.

Don’t blame you.

DressedCrab · 26/11/2017 07:23

Good grief, OP. Your DH needs to get a grip. Complain to who? Don't make a bigger fool of yourself than you already have.

gamerchick · 26/11/2017 07:27

OP let it go. You’re going to make yourself look like a right bellend if you take this further.

Crumbs1 · 26/11/2017 07:32

Really? You bothered mentioning it?

Koala72 · 26/11/2017 07:34

Yes, you have 12 more years of school, and you can't go off like a rocket over something as small as this.

I know it seem huge to you and your husband at the moment, but the correct channelling of this would be:

Aw, it was a pity he didn't say his line - please give him a nudge next time for us!

And as he's happy, that's the most important thing. Don't make a big fuss over this. Really, there will be so many more opportunities in the future.

user789653241 · 26/11/2017 07:44

Some children forget their lines. The assembly goes on. Not the end of the world. I think you are thinking too much into this.
Most of children are capable of saying a line at 6. If he is too shy, you can work on that matter.
Don't blame the teacher, it wan't her intention not to help your ds, it just happened. And it happens, not everything goes 100% as planned, sometimes.

Codlet · 26/11/2017 07:44

Please don’t complain about this OP. The teacher did her best.

Codlet · 26/11/2017 07:45

Imagine if someone complained about you every time you made a small slip up at work.

Mittens1969 · 26/11/2017 07:48

It's a shame but as your DS isn't upset about it there's no harm done and you need to let it go. And your DH definitely shouldn't make a complaint.

AvonCallingBarksdale · 26/11/2017 07:49

No no no don’t take it further for goodness sake. Focus on making sure he’s super confident for the next time and able to project in a VERY LOUD voice. But, no, don’t complain again, really.

SardineJam · 26/11/2017 07:51

He's 6! There are so many adults out there who would struggle - YABU!!

MoistCantaloupe · 26/11/2017 07:51

The good news is your DS thinks he did say the line - or maybe do you think he’s just saying that to you to save face? I was thinking that too, he might be worried what the reaction would be if he were to admit that he didn't actually say it

Exactly the same thought here....

SoupDragon · 26/11/2017 07:53

OP, I can only assume you've joined from somewhere not in the UK.

user789653241 · 26/11/2017 07:54

Yeah, complain about silly/small things like this, and you will eventually push your dc's teacher over the edge, and guess what happens? Have you heard about crisis in retaining good teachers these days?

MidniteScribbler · 26/11/2017 07:54

Oh no, do you mean he will now miss being nominated for the 2018 Academy Awards? I'd sue. His future is now completely ruined. She's obviously the worst teacher in the world, and has it in for your son.

Did you stop for a second and think that it's likely that the teacher was focused on the other two students to stop them running away, hitting another student, or having a meltdown on stage? That she might have been supporting Johnny because Dad walked out last week and wouldn't come to his concert, or mum is in hospital having cancer treatment? There would be 100 things going on during that show, and trying to put it on in front of the judgemental bitches parents is an extra layer of pressure with small humans who are ultimately completely unpredictable.

If the teacher is like any other teacher I know, she is probably mortified that your son missed out on saying his one line, and you will no doubt find he presents something at assembly next week or gets sent to the Principal's office to show off some great work or something.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 26/11/2017 07:58

OP, you really need to get a grip.

He missed his line. The teacher apologised. And your dh wants to take it further?

Teachers have a bloody demanding job and parents like you really don't help.

Let it go.

zoomer455 · 26/11/2017 07:59

Also what kind of school is this? We aren't allowed to take photos in school especially videos.

SavoyCabbage · 26/11/2017 08:00

It's threads like this that remind me why I left teaching.

At the school I was at on Friday, every single class except for one had a supply teacher. There is a teaching crisis and it’s terrifying.

You’ve already made her aware of your displeasure. You don’t even know why he didn’t say his line, it might not have been her fault at all!

SoupDragon · 26/11/2017 08:01

Also what kind of school is this? We aren't allowed to take photos in school especially videos.

We were allowed to video and take photos but had to "promise" not to put them on social media. Ordinary UK state primary. not every school has the same rules.

planetclom · 26/11/2017 08:02

I would be more worried that he is have assembly at stupid o’clock on a Sunday Morning as you said this happened today.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 26/11/2017 08:03

This sort of thing is the reason I could never go into teaching.

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