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To hate it that it gets so personal on here sometimes.

113 replies

kks · 18/04/2007 14:55

The majority of people on mn are very nice but i think it gets too personal sometimes when there is a debate going on. I just don't get how some just can't seem to voice opinions constuctivly without knocking someone down because then it seems to catch on and before you know it, some poor sole is getting insults left, right and centre.

I do wonder why mn isn't moderated better. I realise that lots of threads under different topics are started each day, but the ones that get nasty and personal are usually the very long threads that last days so shouldn't be that hard to seek out.

I do wonder though when someone is getting a thrashing in a debate, how that person must be feeling really. Then i wonder about the people who are typing the nasty stuff whether they would say the stuff to a persons face in real life. I doubt it because it's very easy to hide behind a keyboard.

Sorry this is long but the personal thing is the only thing that annoys me about mn.

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AitchTwoOh · 18/04/2007 15:10

dearie me, that is such a partial account of what happened to fairyedwards that it's making me laugh...

Dinosaur · 18/04/2007 15:10

You can't really come on here and expect to change the whole of mumsnet. There are some wonderful people on here - finding mumsnet and the support it offers has changed my life - but you do kind of have to take the rough with the smooth. Just avoid the controversial threads, find some mates, and you'll have a whale of a time .

kks · 18/04/2007 15:10

I just thought poor bitch though

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expatinscotland · 18/04/2007 15:11

Honestly, life is way, way to short to get upset by 'unfairness' on a website.

There are many millions of them out there.

We are all even free to start them as well, within legal parameters of course, so they are suited to our tastes.

AitchTwoOh · 18/04/2007 15:11

pmsl ar x-dearie mes, expat...

expatinscotland · 18/04/2007 15:11

, Aitch.

DD1 says this all the time. I think she got it from her gran.

kks · 18/04/2007 15:12

I don't really know how you make friends on here cause most of the time my posts get egnored.

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EllieKthePA · 18/04/2007 15:12

you're still quite new here aren't you kks? and that really isn't a true account of the Fairy Edwards saga.
when MN gets personal ime it's always forgotten about fairly swiftly afterwards.

Dinosaur · 18/04/2007 15:13

What are your interests? As in real life, mumsnetters tend to congregate together around the subjects that interest them most.

kks · 18/04/2007 15:13

Yeah i am quite new on here. I just used the FE thing as an example of how she was told to f off.

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DearieMe · 18/04/2007 15:14

pmsl, expat, it is a totally old lady thing to say. i'm loving it as a nickname though.

kks, don't worry, it just takes time that's all. and in a way your name already lends itself to confusion as has already been demonstrated. what about something punchier?

Oblomov · 18/04/2007 15:14

Kks, people have mumsnet FRIENDS ??????? Shit, that's where i've been going wrong for the last 3 years

GibbonInARibbon · 18/04/2007 15:15

That is rare though kks - and although I didn't see that particular thread, I can bet it was not with provocation.

Hilllary · 18/04/2007 15:17

I had an in depth chat with FE last week and she is actually a nice person, I had my doubts too but I think she just comes accross blunt.

kks · 18/04/2007 15:17

Oh yeah she did provoke but i just thought telling her to find a new parenting site was a bit harsh.

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Oblomov · 18/04/2007 15:17

kks. the Fe thing was complicated, rare AND over the period of a very 'hormonal' Easter Weekend.

GibbonInARibbon · 18/04/2007 15:17

without

GibbonInARibbon · 18/04/2007 15:18

lol 'hormonal' Easter weekend

Greensleeves · 18/04/2007 15:19

" and before you know it, some poor sole is getting insults right left and centre"

kks · 18/04/2007 15:20

Well i tried to join in the bookclub recently and asked a question and everyone egnored my question Maybe i should start writing in block capitals.

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kks · 18/04/2007 15:21

lol at 'poor sole'

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GibbonInARibbon · 18/04/2007 15:21
ScottishThistle · 18/04/2007 15:22

Does one really give a shit what a total stranger says to them on a website?...I mean really?

DearieMe · 18/04/2007 15:22

no, that's shouting... very bad form. seriously, you need a new name. who wouldn't respond to a gibboninaribbon before a kks, she just sounds like More Fun.

Greensleeves · 18/04/2007 15:22

Aw, no, we ALL get 'ignored' sometimes, it's because there are so many of us, it's not meant as a snub - just dig in and use your elbows