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a vacuum cleaner as a gift for me.

36 replies

nadinexo1 · 25/11/2017 14:51

f**k the daily mail first of all. so basically my hubby got a lot of vouchers as an incentive from work a year ago.
Anyway I haven't given the vouchers a second thought and he's had them for a while now, we are struggling for money at the moment and there's lots that we go without so that we can give out kids what they need.
Today my dp decided we would get a dyson cordless vacuum cleaner as we have gone through two cheaper makes in two years and keep having to replace. He then tells me he's getting a xbox for himself to which i was a bit Hmm as there's a lot of stuff needs replacing. He then said he didn't understand why I was annoyed as he was 'treating' me to a new vacuum cleaner and I should be over the moon with it in his eyes we both got amazing treats!
AIBU by being annoyed about this? why is the vacuum cleaner my present? we need a new one but I can think of other things I'd like as a treat instead.
I also work part time and all my money goes toward whatever we need, I'm not bothered about him treating himself he earned it so thats fine however why do I bloody get a household appliance as a treat.

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MadForlt · 25/11/2017 14:54

Omg he's an idiot. Ask him how he would feel if you were to buy him new car tyres as a treat.

Yanbu. And I am the least materialistic person around.

ScreamingValenta · 25/11/2017 14:57

Has your DP just arrived from 1950?

It's a household item, not a gift!

monkeysox · 25/11/2017 14:59

What. A. Twat.

Oysterbabe · 25/11/2017 15:00

I'd have let rip tbh.

MikeUniformMike · 25/11/2017 15:03

You are so ungrateful. Your husband is a kind and generous man.

Only joking. He might do all the vacuuming.

Undisputed56 · 25/11/2017 15:05

Errrrrr how about the vacuum is a treat for him seeing as he decided on it and you can use the rest on whatever you fancy!

Booie09 · 25/11/2017 15:09

Sorry I'm sad but I love getting new Hoover's!

GriefLeavesItsMark · 25/11/2017 15:12

Do you think you could fit it up his arse? as that is what would happen if my dh tried to gift me a vacuum cleaner

goose1964 · 25/11/2017 15:14

Just play on the Xbox too. They aren't just for men

Thewolfsjustapuppy · 25/11/2017 15:18

Buy him some washing up gloves for Christmas

Ttbb · 25/11/2017 15:27

Oh dear, that's really just awful. Is he buying the Xbox so that he can spend even more time not working?

Oldraver · 25/11/2017 15:27

In a moment of madness as he couldn't think what to get me for Christmas, OH sent me a text asking if I wanted a new sink for Christmas.

A. Sink. We do need one and I had said I would get one after Christmas..but NOT as a present

AlternativeTentacle · 25/11/2017 15:27

Oh are you the maid? Does DP stand for Dear emPloyer?

gillybeanz · 25/11/2017 15:30

My dh bought me a new hoover once and I bought him DIY stuff and hedge trimmers etc.
We bought what we needed as didn't have money for luxuries.
It was a joint decision though and neither of us had nice presents for a few years.
It was great when we finally had money to buy one another luxuries.

This is totally weird though, why do you deserve household appliances yet he deserves luxuries ?

MinervaSaidThar · 25/11/2017 15:30

YANBU. Tell him if the Dyson is such a bloody treat then he can do all the blooding cleaning with it.

Is he a lazy arse?

Do you get equal spending money for treats?

Want2bSupermum · 25/11/2017 15:32

DH got me a vacuum cleaner as a push present for DD. I gave him a frying pan for Christmas. For the birth of our second I got a diamond encrusted Rolex watch. I got him a golf membership for his birthday.

ImAMarshmellow · 25/11/2017 15:34

I've asked for a kitchen blender from dh. Probably not the right person to ask

MyrandaRoyce · 25/11/2017 15:48

YANBU. I’d rather not have a Christmas present at all than receive a household appliance (that we both use!) as a “gift” from my husband!

butterfly56 · 25/11/2017 15:49

Tell him to take it back!
Get something with the vouchers that you want.

BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried · 25/11/2017 15:49

Well, a dyson is a shit gift. Tell him to get a Miele or shark.

expatinscotland · 25/11/2017 15:54

Take it back. It's not a gift. He's being a fucking wanker.

Agerbilatemycardigan · 25/11/2017 15:58

My ex gave me a pillow for Christmas. To be fair, he did wrap it.

AlexaAmbidextra · 25/11/2017 15:59

Oh I'd have shoved the Dyson up his arse. And then switched it on.

LannieDuck · 25/11/2017 16:05

Wow, that's very poor. Tell him if the Dyson is such a treat, it can be his treat, and you'll have a as your treat.

nadinexo1 · 25/11/2017 16:08

to be honest I was happy about getting a dyson and wasn't that bothered about his xbox i just mentioned we did have other stuff that we NEED but it's more the fact that he thinks it's a treat for me just like an xbox is for him.

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