a vacuum cleaner as a gift for me.

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f**k the daily mail first of all. so basically my hubby got a lot of vouchers as an incentive from work a year ago.
Anyway I haven't given the vouchers a second thought and he's had them for a while now, we are struggling for money at the moment and there's lots that we go without so that we can give out kids what they need.
Today my dp decided we would get a dyson cordless vacuum cleaner as we have gone through two cheaper makes in two years and keep having to replace. He then tells me he's getting a xbox for himself to which i was a bit as there's a lot of stuff needs replacing. He then said he didn't understand why I was annoyed as he was 'treating' me to a new vacuum cleaner and I should be over the moon with it in his eyes we both got amazing treats!
AIBU by being annoyed about this? why is the vacuum cleaner my present? we need a new one but I can think of other things I'd like as a treat instead.
I also work part time and all my money goes toward whatever we need, I'm not bothered about him treating himself he earned it so thats fine however why do I bloody get a household appliance as a treat.

Really? Is this real? Is he joking? Surely it's a joke.

Maybe he thought that if he said he'd bought the Dyson as a 'we need one' family item that's not a gift, plus a gift for himself with the vouchers HE earned over and above his usual salary, that you'd get the hump so decided to call it a gift for you?
And in your opening you say you were a bit about his x-box and then later you say you weren't that bothered - sounds to me like you're pissed about him buying himself something nice and not you.

yes but by calling it a gift is what pissed me off. He did earn the vouchers himself and he has a right to do what he wants but if you saw the things that we NEED then you'd understand why I was .
He's happily setting up his xbox as I type this and that's fine it's just the fact that a household appliance is seen as something ' especially for me'.

My dad bought my mum a dishwasher one year for Xmas. It wasn’t even a new appliance for us,it was just replacing the existing one that was on its last legs. So they would have been replacing it anyway even without Christmas. He’s a knob.

But if he'd said it wasn't a gift, and was just a household purchase, then you'd have been whining that you hadn't got a gift and so I'm suggesting he was trying to avoid that!
Maybe he should have spent the whole lot on himself instead.

nikephorus youre failing to get the point.
him saying the Dyson was a gift to me makes me feel like he sees me as a maid or 'just a housewife' That is what bothers me, not the fact that he got an xbox. Even if he hadn't got that but just got me the dyson as a 'gift' I would still be annoyed.

I would refuse to touch it, unbox it or anything else.

Fuck that shit

I'd have to accidentally break his Xbox with my new Hoover and tell him I was just got carried away with my wonderful gift... This kind of attitude makes me go into full blown bitch mode

I get where you’re coming from OP, either do both things as “really need” or “treat”, but to dress a dyson up as a treat because of wifework would annoy me too.
I am the person who is sad enough to get excited about a dyson but not because I do all the housework and he does nowt!

So take it back! Tell him it's not a gift.