Mum won't come to the phone...

[MrsWembley]

... because Coronation Street hasn't finished - it's got three minutes to go

Is my friend being unreasonable to feel a bit put out?

(Posting this for her as she's not yet an MNer)

Why would you ring someone in the middle of a programme you know they're going to be watching?
Daft. Ring them when you know it's finished, surely!

I haven't watched Coronation St in about 20 years, and my Mum is dead, but even I know you don't call during Coronation Street or Eastenders. Emmerdale was fine if someone had died/had a baby etc.

I think that you usually know when someone is a soap addict, and so I think it's a hostile act to ring during their fix. So your friend is in the wrong, and it seems to be that she's being deliberately provocative.

(As an aside her DMum is BU for being so addicted to Corrie at the moment. Storylines and characterisation are both utterly dire).

unlss its an emergency i dont talk to people when my programs are on

onadifferentplanet I like your style

Bet friend's Mum has been watching Coronation Street for years, so it should come as no surprise to your friend that Mum's otherwise engaged at that time.

I only watch a few things on TV but I can guarantee one of DC will ring at that time. If it's near the end I'll say I'll ring you back in 5. If not, I'll watch it on plus one hour or something.

My late MIL wouldn't do anything when Emmerdale was on so we know not to ring at that time.

Was it urgent? If not, then she should respect that her mum is doing something enjoyable. It is most annoying to watch and enjoy something then miss the end!! Why, just why!?!?!

It doesn't mean she doesn't love her daughter, but really, if it isn't urgent then why put the mum in the position of having to choose?

Corridor is rubbish at the moment - but I still wouldn't answer the phone when it's on.

You're friend is the one being unreasonable.She must know her mum enjoys Corrie so,unless it was an emergency situation, she should have shown some consideration and patience and waited for it to finish before phoning her.

Corridor! Corrie obviously!

DSDad shouldn't have answered the phone in the first place

Why?

The problem is that regardless of back story your friend is being irrational about this

She has a problem with her mother so every little thing allows her to put another brick on the wall. She needs to be able to distinguish between behaviour that is unreasonable from her mum and behaviour that she is being unreasonable about (such as this example)

I'm sure she has very reasonable complaints against her mother but using this as an example doesn't help her case.

Why isn't the DSD allowed to answer the phone, in what I presume is his own home, and say X will call you back in three minutes?

I don't understand

Is your friend prone to tedious drama?

Good Lord my Mother was like this.. rest her soul

you DAREN'T call her during.. Emmerdale.. Corrie or Eastenders hahaaaa she'd screech call back... and hang up.... we siblings all learned ... check for commercial break times ... lol

My aunt used to take the phone off the hook for Coronation Street, Eastenders, Emmerdale and goodness knows how many other soaps. Then as she aged she'd progressively forget to put it back on. So anyone wanting to speak to her (or merely check she was alive) would have to phone her neighbour who would go round and sort it out.

No, friend isn't being precious or a brat or prone to dramatics, but her DM is prone to passive aggressive behaviour and she's wondering if this is normal or just her DM. And I did say 'put out', not bawling or foot stamping or screaming with rage...

We're now both a bit that this appears to be normal. Has nobody heard that you can now pause live tv?

Yes your friend is BU

I don't dare to call my Mum when Corrie is on, just like I wouldn't ring my Dad if the Spurs match is being televised.

Has nobody heard that you can now pause live tv?

I don't think our TV does that. We don't have cable/satellite.
Besides, if you have watched 27 minutes of a programme, who wants to be interrupted just as you get to the cliffhanger?
SIBU.

Was it an emergency?

Do you really expect everyone to drop everything the minute you call?

Why on earth would you pause for 3 mins - which we all know tends to be the cliff hanger in these soaps.

It is being precious to think her dad shouldn't have answered because he must have known your friend wanted to speak immediately to her mother.

Her mother may be the most PA person on earth but this isn't an example of it. It only would be if her mum hates corrie

Has nobody heard that you can now pause live tv? - not on my TV or my mums! It's rude to be so demanding and needy of attention that they can't be given 3 minutes to finish something they're in the middle of doing, be that a TV show, the washing up or having a shit.

And FWIW my 7 year old knows that if he wants something (be that attention/a drink/other) then he can wait until I'm done with whatever it is I'm doing unless it's an emergancy. If my 7 year old can get it then I'm sure your friend can.

We're now both a bit hmm that this appears to be normal. Has nobody heard that you can now pause live tv?

Not everyone has Sky ... We have freeview on our main TV and Now TV for catch-up on my bedroom TV neither of which can pause live tv shows.

Also your friend is BU ... If you know someone does an activity, at a specific time with a definite end point, if you knowingly call during that time and get annoyed that they won't interrupt their activity then the PA one is you, not the person who doesn't want to be interrupted

Has nobody heard that you can now pause live tv?

if you change channnel from ITV to BBC1 this makes the pause null and void...

but my Mother sadly passed away before such 'taken for granted' things existed...

We're now both a bit hmmthat this appears to be normal.

I know my parents’ routine, for the most part, and I fit phone calls in when they are likely to suit them. Surely that is normal?

I don't speak to anyone in the house when my programmes are on, never mind on the phone , joke!
But I would answer them a bit like, "really, your asking me xyz, when my programmes on".
The phone, I just wouldn't answer it. My son would ask me how I could just sit there with it ringing. Easy!!!!
Now of course, I have the luxury of "the pause button" and also " the rewind" if some actor can't speak properly. Happy me!!!!