To think people often play out their parents choices and mistakes when they're adults?

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I mean...when kids grow up, they seem to make similar choices or mistakes that their parents made.

My friend...her DH has done to her exactly what his Dad did to his Mum...shitty, shitty things and oddly specific.

My friend's Mum had the SAME things done to her by my friend's Dad...coincidence?

My other friend...his Dad was a serial philanderer...loads of affairs. He's just been found to be doing the same thing to his wife.

What do you think?

This be the verse by Philip Larkin:
They fuck you up your mum and dad.
They may not mean to but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had.
And add some extra just for you..

My grandmother was not at all maternal and had a distant relationship with her 4 children. I don't have a close relationship with my mum. I am determined not to repeat this with DD.