AIBU ...Facebook attention seeking

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

Aibu here....

Friend got admitted to hospital last week. Been messaging her a lot about how she is etc without actually asking why she is in there (respecting her privacy as she didn't openly offer the information).
She posts a photo of herself in hospital on Facebook saying she's been in having an Operation. Cue the "omg are you okay?" "What happened??" I message her and asked what the op was for if she didn't mind me asking seen as it was now public enough to do a Facebook post. She replied "I'd rather not say sorry".

AIBU to get irritated by people being drama lamas on Facebook only to stone wall people who ask what's happened

[AskingForAnEnemy]

Some people boil my fucking piss on Facebook. Somebody on mine is currently going through a divorce and the drama and attention seeking is unreal. One post the other day simply said

"Hmmm very interesting info received today"

So of course lots of "ooh what?" Posts. All met with "I'll tell you when I see you"

Then going on about needing police help and stuff but not saying why she Needs it. Checking in at the hospital and not replying to a single comment asking what's wrong.

Just fuck right off man

[TammySwansonTwo]

Usually I feel really sorry for these people. Generally it means they don't have anyone close enough to actually call and talk to, they need some support but there's no one to give it directly. Some are just attention seeking nightmares though.

When my twins were born and in nicu, I did share pictures - so many people asking and messaging me, it was easier to just update fb than have 30 separate conversations. Now I look back at those photos and realise how ill one of them looked but I really didn't see it at the time, I was just in shock& I guess. It was never vague though!

[PaddingtonBearHardStare]

I work in the local hospital. I might check in tomorrow at 8.30am when I arrive at work and then just say yeah I was at work why to any comments when I leave at 5pm. That'll learn 'em irritating twunts

[dingdongdigeridoo]

Paddington, you should check in and just comment with a load of crying faces. See how many U OK Huns you get.

[Allthetuppences]

Just respond "well done that's the vaguebooking post of the week"

[Mamabear4180]

Tammy there's nothing wrong with posting pics of babies in the NICU that's completely different I think. I did a few hospital pics of my babies (not in NICU but if they were I would have) it's a special time!

[MargaretCavendish]

I agree that she sounds annoying and attention-seeking - but am I the only one who thinks it's quite rude to ask what exactly was wrong? If she'd been repeatedly messaging you without saying why then I'd assume it was something she didn't want to share (gynaecological or digestive, I would guess), and it just sounds so nosy to text 'so, what's actually wrong with you?'.

[TammySwansonTwo]

Thanks Mama - honestly I didn't think much about it at the time,people were very concerned, we were in there months, and when he finally did come home he almost immediately got whooping cough and went back in. Very tough time and no family around for support, I think the support there got me through.

But I would NEVER post vague stuff about my kids or myself being in hospital - but maybe that's because I know how scary that is and not something to be capitalised on for drama!

[YoloSwaggins]

Haha I had a Facebook friend who every year posted the anniversary of her nose job, with before and after pics!!

So glad I quit FB.

[Faithless]

Type of Munchausens' by facebook OP?
I am friends with a couple who are really lovely in RL -kind, fun and great company - but come across as pair of absolute dicks on social media, with the cryptic hurt posts, lovely dovey OTT messages when they're in the same house and general outrageous showing off and over sharing. I actually find it very entertaining looking at their posts and wondering if they have been hacked by Russians because there is such an enormous disconnect between the way they behave in RL and on social media. What on earth happens to some people when they get behind a screen?

[Welshmaenad]

Ah, I was in hospital recently and I posted about it on Facebook, mainly so lots of people weren't messaging me because I was tired.

No intrigue though, I was very open about the fact that my tit was trying to kill me and I was going stir crazy 😂

[Whatsername17]

I don't get it. Pictures of poorly children make me mad. I'd hate someone shoving a camera in my face when I'm ill.

[Mittens1969]

I very rarely share anything remotely negative on my Facebook wall, mainly because if I’m feeling low I don’t want to bring my FB friends down with me. I also hate the idea of airing my ‘dirty linen’ in public, which Facebook is, in effect.

I don’t mind if others do, though. I just post a sad reaction and write ‘thinking of you’.

[thecatsarecrazy]

My son was in hospital for the first month of his life. I took many photos of him. Not great having pictures on him with a feeding tube but if i hadn't i would have missed out on so much. I posted a picture of him after he came out of p.i.c.u

[JollyWankers]

There's nothing quite like a popcorn grabbing, very public, dirty laundry airing that has everyone's private message boxes beeping like a reversing dustbin truck.

[shakeyourcaboose]

Yes witch of course then followed by the true friends memes..... Ffs woman you are in your 30s!!