AIBU ...Facebook attention seeking

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

Aibu here....

Friend got admitted to hospital last week. Been messaging her a lot about how she is etc without actually asking why she is in there (respecting her privacy as she didn't openly offer the information).
She posts a photo of herself in hospital on Facebook saying she's been in having an Operation. Cue the "omg are you okay?" "What happened??" I message her and asked what the op was for if she didn't mind me asking seen as it was now public enough to do a Facebook post. She replied "I'd rather not say sorry".

AIBU to get irritated by people being drama lamas on Facebook only to stone wall people who ask what's happened

[theabysswithin]

I have an FB acquaintance like this and its very self-defeating as it creates so much distrust. She was a full-on attention seeker when she was a teenager with form for dragging people into family dramas which subsequently turned out to be lies or half-truths. She recently posted pictures of herself with bruises on FB with hints which clearly indicated some sort of DV/sexual violence situation.

Had it been someone without a prior history of this I would have been on the phone to her to find out what was wrong and offer help. As it was I put it down to high drama and ignored.

[Polkadot1974]

I have a real issue with poorly hospital pictures. Makes me feel really anxious

[WinterRose92]

Yeah, I really hate this! If you don't want to talk about it then don't post it!

[dingdongdigeridoo]

Unfollow. These people are so annoying.

[pictish]

Ugh

[phoenix1973]

My sil was like this so I unfollowed her. She was always posting photos of herself saying "what do you like best about me, lips, eyes etc?" Fishing freak.
Was much happier without seeing that nonsense. We are no contact at all now which is a blessing.

[sausagerollsrock]

Urgh yanbu. My friend does this with her little boy. 'Didn't think we'd be back here again so soon 😭' at local hospital. Mind you her whole life is shared on Facebook. If it's not on Facebook it's not worth mentioning.

[TheStoic]

I love it! I find it very entertaining. FB would be the poorer without it.

[DoesHeWantToOrNot]

My ex sil would post everything on fb. Even a pic of meat that her friend got her saying "thanks for the meat*

[LouiseCM]

YANBU

[pasturesgreen]

YANBU.

Cryptic fb updates, checking in at the local hospital, I know who my friends are type of posts and all other attention seeking bollocks get completely ignored. Don't feed the drama.

[MyBeloved]

Oohhh I hate attention seeking "feeling broken" posts with no details or anything else - just loads of "are you ok hun?" replies. Irritating. If you post something like that publicly, at least be willing to say what's wrong - or don't post publicly!

[shakeyourcaboose]

Yep- had one who does this all the type think it needs a term of it's own for a&e vaguebooking. Multiple sad pics in a&e bed 'so worried' (but classic dm sad face) am feeling so down and so on ad nauseaum for ages- then an 'OMG will people stop messaging me?!! I AM in hospital and there's been so many PMs' 🤔😒

[Dippydippydora]

It's the ones who go
"I am so stressed and angry at the moment"
And when I friend replays "what's up Hun"
"I will PM you"
What's the point

[PavlovianLunge]

Someone I knew in real life would do this all the time, but had a team of flying monkeys that would rally round and tell her how fabulous/brave/special she was, etc. Total attention whore, including getting huge mileage out of her child’s diabetes. It was all about her.

One day, she posted a photo of her child’s newly-fitted insulin pump, complete with quite a lot of 8/9 year old buttock. One friend posted positively (because it was going to be a huge benefit to them), but questioned the wisdom of posting her child’s bare buttock. Boy did she take a pasting from the flying monkeys.

Anyway, the showing off and passive aggressive fishing went from bad to worse, along with some terrible real life behaviour, to the extent that I eventually blocked and went NC. I don’t miss the drama.

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

I'm glad IANBU here :)

Person in question has become a lot more secretive since being with DP. She barely has anything to say these days as everything's so private.

That I don't mind at all. Just don't post things on Facebook if you want to uphold the air of mystery

[RoganJosh]

I don’t mind the straightforward sympathy seeking ones. I get that if you’re having a tough time it’s nice to have a few kind words.

I do mind the ones that don’t say what the matter is though. ‘I’ll PM you.’ Humph.

[wednesdayswench]

YANBU

I hope you responded 'if you would rather keep your operation private why did you post about it on FB?' And then unfollowed her.

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

Tempted to unfollow as the other 90% of that persons other status' are smug married ones

[Breadwithgarlicon]

It's all awful. I keep fb for the fun groups, cute animals and for finding out stuff, but the whole 'friend' thing is just utter nonsense! It tricks you into thinking that certain people are your friends when they're not at all. I do real-life friendships only now and it feels a LOT better.

[TieGrr]

I've one on my friend list who posted up a photo of the results from a course she did. Lots of congratulations poured in. The next morning, there was a post from her saying she didn't understand why people were so impressed. That it was only the equivalent of such-and-such and she already had much better and much more difficult qualifications.

If you don't want the congratulations, then don't post a photo of your results.

[TreeTopTen]

YANBU! Pet hate of mine.

I much prefer the "Friends" who spectacularly lose their shit. There's nothing quite like a popcorn grabbing, very public, dirty laundry airing that has everyone's private message boxes beeping like a reversing dustbin truck.

[Mamabear4180]

YANBU

I changed my FB account a while back. I have less than 50 friends now, all of whom I know in RL barr one who I've been chatting to for almost 2 years. There are others I know in RL who aren't FB friends because they post this kind of crap.

If I ever have a bit of a rant on FB I either make it witty or amusing or end the negativity with a positive. Even when my sister died last year I managed to write a positive post. That's my personality in RL anyway, I find negativity really draining.

[Mamabear4180]

TieGrr she definitely wanted the congratulations. She sounds exasperating!

[witchofzog]

Shake I am gobsmacked at the woman who had the audacity to get pissy about the messages while she is in hospital when she started the drama herself