Just why would you do this?

[witchofzog]

Second aibu in 2 days. I must be a right grumpy old cow. Or maybe I am just surrounded by twats.

I logged onto Facebook earlier to see a post from a friend. The family cat died yesterday and she posted yesterday that her youngest dd has been really affected by it. Today's post is a photo of the little girl on a sofa looking sad and on the verge of tears with the caption. "Hate seeing my little girl so sad over tiddles"

Just why? What level of attention seeking is this? Aibu to think she is an utter twat? ( I actually feel this will be unanimous )

oh that is pretty grim

like putting a photo of your dc's chickenpox rash ffs

I love to unfollow people who do this shit, I operate a 1 click and you are out policy.

Ugh, I'm so sick of people posting about things they don't like people posting on Facebook. Especially when those things are the exact kind of thing people use Facebook specifically for!

But you could say the same about hating posters who post about what they hate people posting in AIBU.

It's all so fucking meta.

It’s an extension of the sad faced articles in the sun and daily fail etc. Inappropriate. Give the kid a cuddle, not publish photo on fb.

some people are fuckwits.

I expect we will see more and more fuckwittery like this in the future.

Never forget you are free to unfriend, unfollow or block.

Reply with 'Could you post more of a close-up? I can't see the tears very well, this is a bit out of focus'

I've seen someone post a photo of their child's shit in the potty. I mean, I get you're proud but seriously???

Also, what about all those... "Happy Birthday to my darling, sweet, perfect, beautiful... three year old"?!?! Or "Happy Anniversary to my Wonderful Husband". Those really irritate me for some reason. Tell him, not the rest of the world!

^^

100 times this

It’s your DH, you’re spending the day together, I’m pretty sure you’ve said it to his face. Even if you’re not together for the day then why not text/phone? Why make it public?

Our feeling is to try always to be aware our our children’s need for privacy. Perhaps not now but in the future as adults.

Will your 18 yo really want thousands of pictures of them crying or ill available on the internet? Possibly not.

I certainly wouldn’t want some to take a photo of me when ill or grieving so I assume that my children won’t want that either.

^

I also agree.

And when is your child ever going to read that?

Again- attention seeking for 'likes'.

I wouldn’t think much of such a FB post either but I wouldn’t start a mumsnet thread about it. Just unfollow or unfriend. Simples.

This is why I’m not on Facebook! That kind of behaviour would drive me mad.

Someone on my facebook feed yesterday (one of DP's friends) posted that he was dreading going home after work and that it wasn't a good sign for his marriage.

It was a serious post, and dozens of people commented telling him to keep his head up etc and he was replying and saying about how he was going to talk to his wife seriously about leaving this time etc. (They've been in an unhappy marriage for years, which is common knowledge).

This guy has two young teengage kids who, while they don't seem to be on Facebook, certainly have friends there age who ARE on Facebook, and whose parents are friends with him.

I just can't believe he is sharing this level of personal information, and that so many people I am acquaintances with are commenting and offering support as if it's normal. God forbid someone's son or daughter sees what he is writing via their parents' facebook account and mentions it to his kids.

I know someone on FB who works in A&E and really pisses me off by stating, practically every week, "first night of 8, so exhausted, don't know how I'm going to get through this".
First of all, it doesn't inspire bloody confidence in A&E if she "can hardly keep my eyes open". And the other one is, "soooo ill"
Aaaaarrrrgh! She thinks shes the only one in the World bloody working.
I don't Block as I like screaming at the screen: "Fuck offfff you moaning cow"

Tummy bug pictures, chicken pox rashes and the "I don't want to go home to my wife" post that one poster mentioned. Also too much information. There is a difference between a "Poor little Tommy has been really ill today" post and a picture of his rash or his head down the toilet. I just think the pictures are unecessary and not something the children will thank them for. And as for unhappy married man. How would his wife and kids feel to see this? Some people dont seem to realise that one ill thought out post could then be seen by their family friends and colleagues who don't want or need that level of detail

Here's an idea, how bout you stop "being friends" with people you actively dislike

Since when did I say I actively disliked her? I don't like what she posted. It is a dick move. It doesn't mean I dislike her.

Un follow her, you won't see her posts then and they won't cause you a second thought. Simple.

I post very little and tend to only put on the humorous things that happen, bit of light relief for friends/family.

My cousin just posted a picture of her son hanging over a bowl, retching

Watch out, there will be one of him on the loo, next!

A friend of mine posted a picture of a mouse he'd killed in a mouse trap. YANBU!

Well, as she's got 400 friends, she's unlikely to notice if you fuck off & stop following her posts.

What insightful and meaningful communications do you post out of interest??

I love it. I am so nosy that I love all the over-share stuff. Most of my friends are far too sensible to do it but occasionally I get the odd sniff of dirty laundry hung out to air in public or cheeky insights into the homes of friends of friends, who haven't locked down their privacy settings and it reminds me how much I love FB!

What about the child??I bet they won’t be happy to have a photo of them in tears when they are teens/young adults.

That’s why there are talks about hav8ng a law allowing adults to delete any photos of them from W they were young une.

Because people are posting to make themselves feel better, wo a thought for the child in the photo. (Or consent but that wouod be obvious from children)

what insightful and meaningful communications do you post?

Well nothing insightful and meaningful I don't use Facebook for that. Mine is mainly for the odd photo of family friends (who all have Facebook and do similar) , occasional funny dog videos I have seen elsewhere on Facebook (maybe not funny to everyone but some people seem to like them too) and rare status updates if I have something I want to share. I wouldn't share a photo of my ds crying or puking or doing anything he would be embarrassed of (Or anyone else for that matter)

We live in a 'poor me' culture, fuelled by social media where by you can post about all your woes and wait til someone comes along to stroke your ego! exactly the reason I'm not on it.