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To find this Samaritans/rail suicide reduction campaign video simplistic and upsetting?

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IWroteThisSongForYou · 18/11/2017 21:54

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Basically video is: announcement on train platform saying there's been a serious incident, woman left a note at home and went to station to take her own life... but - all is well, someone intervened and spoke to her, starting her recovery journey, and in fact it is her making the announcement, and yes, you too could help someone by intervening.

I get it, it's good if people intervene if they see something odd. Glad woman was saved, hope others are too.

But... it seems to be spectacularly missing the point. What drove her to that point? More importantly - what happened after someone intervened in that moment?

It just seems to be reinforcing the simplistic (and prevalent, IME) idea that someone has a suicidal crisis, needs to be "saved" and presumably whisked off to a team of dedicated, kindly, caring professionals, given lots of TLC from others, probably some kind of therapy or something and then all is well, gorgeous young woman is gorgeous functional young woman again, with a story to tell of how she came so close to the brink, and yey! All is well.

And we can all feel like good, thoughtful people, and do the head-tilt smile-grimace that represents "serious, meaningful face" (for a demonstration, see video at 0.51) when we hear about it.

I actually think we're not bad, overall, at wanting to step in and do something. Like the everyday heroes you see after accidents or attacks. But has anyone else felt utterly hopeless and exhausted explaining to well-meaning people that yes, they have "taken the first step" and sought help, but it's the million and one steps after that that are so difficult. Or attempted to explain to them that help was sought, but not forthcoming. People don't seem to know or care what happens after one is pulled back from the brink. Mental health services are in a terrible state. This I know who have killed themselves, or come close, have all attempted to get help beforehand. They ended up in that state because the help wasn't there, and because society overall isn't very good at supporting people who are struggling like that.

I just find this video really upsetting, and very much seems to be made from the POV of someone who has no clue of the reality of what drives people to feel so desperate.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 20/11/2017 09:34

I too have had suicidal thoughts, on more occasions than I can count. Thankfully I have never reached the point of acting on them - but if I do, I hope there would be someone there who would intervene, even if they knew that I would find it hard to find help afterwards.

@jakeyboy raises a good point about the train driver. I know that, if someone is so desperate that they are going to step in front of a train, they are not thinking clearly and will not realise the impact on the driver - but imagine driving a vehicle that you can neither stop in time nor swerve round the person on the tracks. Imagine having to sit in your driving seat, hand on the horn, helpless to stop what is going to happen. It is awful for drivers - some never drive again.

If this advert saves a train driver from going through that, it will be a good thing.

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