To want to LTB?

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In an argument with DH last night, he said he's unhappy with his life because he never gets to see his friends (not my fault - we moved south for his work) and that he sacrificed everything by having a child with me that he didn't really want! That's news to me and I'm fucking livid.

Asshole!

dont leave him... set him free... let him skip off to freedom land where young men get to do what they want when ever they want with no responsibilities... you stay and be a great mum ( and maybe the best dad a child could ever have as well, if hes not going to be dad that is) and when he comes crawling back you can decide if you and your child can forgive him or not

So if he didn't want a child, why did he agree to unprotected sex?!

Has he apologised this morning?

Wow, that’s horrendous!

I’d write down all the points you want to discuss so you don’t forget when emotions run high and sit down with him before you LTB. If he’s truly such an asshole then LTB might be your option.

Child was planned! We've recently been taking about have another. I'm livid and devastated at the same time. Don't know whether to kill him or just cry.

Presumably you had to leave all your friends behind for his work, too,?

Tell him that if he's so unhappy he's welcome to fuck off back up north.

I think it depends how he said it. My DC were planned too but it didn't stop me thinking when they were younger that I wished I hadn't had them. When I voiced this to my DH he had the same sort of reaction as OP. It would have been much more helpful if instead of just getting "fucking livid" he had taken the time to understand why I felt like that.

He's a pick. He's checking out.

We were always going to have 2 children, it has been discussed and planned since the beginning. To find out he didn't want the one we have and now I'll never have another is beyond devastating. He does minimal childcare as it is, and he hasn't even tried to make any new friends where we live.

Just tell him that that’s fine and leave it at that. He’ll want a reaction. He’ll want you to make a case for why your life is great, beg him to stay, make him feel loved and valued etc Just be completely neutral. If he loves you and wants his family, he’ll sharp realise that he has to work at it and the thought of it slipping away from him should kick him up the arse.
If it doesn’t, you’ve had a luck escape and can find someone who values their family

He sounds an absolute catch!
Does he have redeeming qualities?

What a dick

Don't write a list of points like a PP said.

Instead write 'GO FUCK YOURSELF' on a piece of paper and stick it on a packed suitcase of his stuff.

Who the hell does he think he is?!

So he's the one who put the sperm inside you, and yet somehow it's your fault.

So you made him
-marry you
-get you pregnant
-get a new job
-stop seeing his friends

and yet you haven't yet made him win the lottery/become King/learn to fly? How cruel

What an arse. I'd struggle to find a way past this tbh.

Pickachew I've made new friends, but he's not interested in them. He makes out he's this dedicated partner because he doesn't go out and get drunk like other men. 🤔 So not because you've got no friends then?!

Why will you never have another? Leave the ignoring bastard and find someone nice to be a decent dad.

*ignorant

I’d be making him pay for that OP, but in a very calm manner.

“Oh well, I guess you’re probably right. When are you leaving?”

Well if he's unhappy now, tell him to do one and see how happy that makes him

I can't even bring myself to think of his good points right now, I just look at him and I think 'dick'

Shit. I’m far too tolerant but that’s pretty unforgivable. Im not sure how on Earth you move on from what he said unless he can in some way explain himself.

Of course you're not unreasonable to LTB, if I was in your shoes I would be doing just that!

Find someone better, which shouldn't be very hard tbh.

Or just enjoy time you and your son without the dead weight round your neck weighing you down.

MrTrebus - I'm too old for the time it would take to break free, take some time on my own, meet someone, settle down etc.. I'm 40 and we've been casually trying for baby no.2, which would've been 'properly' trying in the new year. I say would've been