Aibu to not want my boys playing gta!

[Runlovingmummy81]

So my ex husband (those of you who have seen my posts before will know he is emotionally abusive and controlling) has decided it is appropriate to let the boys play grand theft auto. They are 5 and 6.

Ffs

The youngest must of mentioned it at school today as he said his teacher has said he shouldn't play it!

Aibu to speak to her tomorrow to let her know they do it at their dads not mine and see if she will raise it?

I've messaged him but no reply as yet.

Thanks aunt... He's like this with a lot of things.

Try to gain access to his accommodation ‘ds forgot x, I’ll juat nip in’ and snap the disc in two/throw the PS down the stairs?

Wish I could but there's no way I'll get near his house. He doesn't talk to me and all handovers take place at mine.

I don’t let my 13.5yr old DS play it. He may at friends’ houses but I can’t legislate against that. He knows that I won’t let him have it (more likely to allow CoD with the violence turned off/down).

What does he mean discuss if required? By who? Sounds to me like he thinks you’re making up that Mrs xxx mentioned it and it’s just you being a pain and having a go at him.

I’d respond with something along the lines of good I’m sure head/ safeguarding lead and social services will be happy to hear why you’re willing to expose the boys to such an appalling thing.

I've replied and said I will be speaking with both teachers and the head teacher regarding my safeguarding concerns.

I will be speaking with both teachers and the head teacher regarding my concerns tomorrow. There is a safeguarding issue if you are going to continue to subject the boys to this appalling game.

The PEGI website says that it contains "Extreme violence - Multiple, motiveless killing - Violence towards defenceless people - Strong language" (definitely not something that you want a five year old to see).

But what are the teachers going to do? If you have concerns then you need to revisit access arrangements. They can follow safeguarding procedures but not police his parenting.

Revisiting means back to court and with no evidence or support....

My year 8 plays it - my year 6 isn’t even allowed in the room when he does.

Mine are reception and year 2!

Year 8 so 12 or 13? Still too young imo. Plenty of other games more suitable for that age group.

When mine were in primary school we had a letter home saying if the kids mentioned in school they had seen or been playing GTA that they would immediately refer that child through their safeguarding procedure. My boy is yr8 now and I allow call of duty and batman but he asked for Friday the 13th and hit man and was told a firm no. He doesn't even ask about GTA as he knows I won't allow it in the house.

Is this the guy who made them sleep in a car for a holiday?

5 and 6! thats fucking insane. I wont let anyone in my house play it while theyre living here, and we're a family of gamers. And yes Ive played it and its predecessors and it is not suitable for children (even with the sound down, had one mum in y4 say that that was fine, now has a y8 with MH issues in counselling)

That's insane.

It's also not suitable for pre-teens. It doesn't matter if you "turn down the swearing" to play online, the missions online are still violent, and the random players who appear on your map are violent towards everyone else.

Oh my god, there's a mission in it where you have to torture somebody for information! He's unbelievable!

mamabear4 which batman game is it? Any batman other than the lego ones also contain swearing and are violent.

We are pretty chilled about games. We've allowed DSS (age 14) to play on the call of duty and resident evil games for the past 2 or so years. GTA though, absolutely not.

Pumper..... That's the fella :(

The child's tescher could report this social services.

We don't allow DSS to play online though, I personally don't think players should be online where they're talking to anyone and everyone until 16

Creambun...I'm hoping they will help and be supportive

I know the batman games are violent, I don't think they are anywhere near in the league of GTA though. I am pretty lax about generalised violence tbh, he has played cod for the last year. I oppose the sexualized violence, the rape etc in GTA, and that's why he doesn't play it. Same as why he won't have hitman, I don't like the lone wolf serial killer part. In cod it's in an army, and batman is a superhero. It may not be rational to anyone else but it's how I work on what I allow or don't.