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To tell her she's a piss taker

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Namechanger2735 · 13/11/2017 15:42

Woman I know recently started a new job and instantly started a very weird relationship with her boss. They were going to move in together "purely for financial reasons", he lent her hundreds of pounds at the drop of a hat, he basically fell for her and was being led on.. friend told me he was single. I've just found out she's left her job as she's "been harassed" by this man. She's said he has smacked her on the bum and said he was leaving his wife for her etc and to all of this she showed no interest and feels very uncomfortable by it. She hasn't told me this herself as obviously she knows it'll show her to be a bloody liar. All I can think is this poor man was led along and forked out money for a woman that wanted to live with him and is now being made out to be a weirdo. Would you question her and tell her she's out of order? Or just stay out of it.

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SpottedGingham · 13/11/2017 15:43

Your last sentence.

Hmm
MoistCantaloupe · 13/11/2017 15:45

How do you know this man hasn't harassed her?
It doesn't sound like you actually know clearly what is going on.
So probably stay out if it.

BastardGoDarkly · 13/11/2017 15:46

Stay out of it ffs!? You know sweet fuck all about what actually went on between them.

Poor man, my arse.

TwoKidsAndCounting · 13/11/2017 15:46

Sounds like you don't kno2 any of the facts and your listening to gossip, my advice is to keep out of the situation or voive your opinion if she asks you for it

FittonTower · 13/11/2017 15:49

Poor man, in a position of authority, already married, led on by some strumpet to the point where he inappropriately touches her in the workplace - something he can have absolutely NO WAY OF KNOWING is not acceptable.
Bloody women.

PinkHeart5914 · 13/11/2017 15:49

So she was out for what she could get, was happy to take his money etc
He just wanted a play thing

As bad as each other really, neither sound great.

Would I question her? No. Would I tell her she’s out of order? Why bother, I’m sure you could find something more fun to do try watching paint dry

Bluntness100 · 13/11/2017 15:50

So guessing you don’t like her, eh? Listening to daft gossip, no idea what’s going on, but gagging to get in there and have a go?

Stay out of it, you clearly have no idea what’s going on.

BulletFox · 13/11/2017 15:51

That's...bizarre...so where was the wife living when they moved in together?

Wolfiefan · 13/11/2017 15:51

Honestly? What has it got to do with you?
Stay out.

SloeSloeQuickQuickGin · 13/11/2017 15:54

Im lost at the single bit, then leaving his wife for her.

Mulberry72 · 13/11/2017 15:57

Keep out of it, too much speculation and no real facts. Steer well clear.

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Namechanger2735 · 13/11/2017 15:59

She told me he was single (so she wasn't doing anything wrong) I've now learnt he's married and when putting in complaints about him she's said "he's said weird things to me like how much he loves me and wants to leave his wife for me"..which obviously differs from what she's told me, and proves she knew he was married so lied when saying he was single. Agreed, maybe "poor man" was a bit much but I just think yes, it makes him a dick to be married and want to leave his wife for her etc but from what she told me he really did fall for her and she happily accepted his money (asked for it in the first place) and made plans to live with him but will now forget all that and happily tell others he's some sort of perv

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MrsZenMum · 13/11/2017 16:07

Stay out of it. You don't want to be dragged into this kind of drama.

MissConductUS · 13/11/2017 16:13

I agree with MrsZenMum. There are no positive outcomes to you getting in the middle of this epic fail.

TheCatsMother99 · 13/11/2017 16:14

Stay out of it. Absolutely no need to get involved.

PoorYorick · 13/11/2017 16:14

Good God, keep your foot long nose out of it. It's nothing to do with you.

MoistCantaloupe · 13/11/2017 16:15

But how do you know he is NOT some kind of perv and she hasn't been harassed by him? It's a separate issue to whatever their arrangement was before. Really, you should stay out of it.

TrojansAreSmegheads · 13/11/2017 16:17

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Original poster
Namechanger2735 · 13/11/2017 16:20

Chill out 😂

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FittonTower · 13/11/2017 16:20

From everything you have said he could've told her he was single, leant her money and the possibility of a friendly housemate and then got pissed off and gropey when she found out he was actually a married prick hoping for a bit on the side.....
Keep out of it, especially when you clearly don't like the woman much and have already decided she is entirely to blame for a situation you don't know the full facts about.

ButchyRestingFace · 13/11/2017 16:23

Woman I know recently started a new job

You need to stop talking about your best friend/sister/mum/auntie/cousin like that. Grin

MsWanaBanana · 13/11/2017 16:24

*Chill out 😂 Grow up and stay out of it OP. You sound about 12 years old

MsWanaBanana · 13/11/2017 16:24

Bold fail!!

WizardOfToss · 13/11/2017 16:26

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paxillin · 13/11/2017 16:27

Unless you are either the man or the woman in question, you don't know what happened. Leave well alone. Should you be asked to corroborate either story, only report what you have witnessed, not what either told you.