To tell her she's a piss taker

[Namechanger2735]

Woman I know recently started a new job and instantly started a very weird relationship with her boss. They were going to move in together "purely for financial reasons", he lent her hundreds of pounds at the drop of a hat, he basically fell for her and was being led on.. friend told me he was single. I've just found out she's left her job as she's "been harassed" by this man. She's said he has smacked her on the bum and said he was leaving his wife for her etc and to all of this she showed no interest and feels very uncomfortable by it. She hasn't told me this herself as obviously she knows it'll show her to be a bloody liar. All I can think is this poor man was led along and forked out money for a woman that wanted to live with him and is now being made out to be a weirdo. Would you question her and tell her she's out of order? Or just stay out of it.

You're telling everyone to chill out, without seeing the irony in this?
No wonder you have the username you do - I'd change my name if I was you too.

stay out of it unless you’re interviewed by HR in which case be factual.

I told the poster before me to chill out, not everyone. All I'm saying is I know she hasn't mentioned to anyone that he lent her money (she's now avoiding him so won't be giving that back) and she was going to live with him. She's told people "he was inappropriate from the first time I met him" so it's not as though all of a sudden he switched and made her uncomfortable. I think she's got money out of him and is now out to ruin his reputation which just doesn't seem fair. That's all

Who appointed you the moral police ?

Keep your beak out.

You sound like a poor episode of JK

Unless you’re the wife, stay well out of it.

If you don’t want to stay out of it, what exactly can you do about it anyway? Give her a scarlet letter? Shout “you strumpet!” at her in the street? Just gossip to your friends about what a tart she is (which you are clearly doing already)?

There’s nothing you can do about it. Far better to just get on with your own life.

There will be an investigation. He'll have the opportunity to give his side of the story. If he lent her money and they were going to move in together, he'll have some means of proving that.

You really can gain nothing from inserting yourself into this story.

I'd be careful assuming all this. I know someone who was offered help by a male friend of hers, moved into his home for practical/financial reasons, but he started telling everyone behind her back that they were more than friends but she wasn't 'putting out' for him and he felt he was being led on, when he wasn't. He spread various lies among their circle of friends and it's only when she asked for help and moved out did we find out that all he had told us were lies, he had been harassing her, demanding they have a relationship and doing far, far worse.

Wow, I love how attitudes differ on mn depending on whether the victim is a man or a woman.
Op I’d just stay out of it. Unfortunately there are women like her around who make a joke out of sexual harassment. It’s bad for men & for women who’ve legitimately been victims of this.

Why do you want to hurt this woman op? What’s causing you to post this? It’s clearly not some altruism towards the cheating bloke, you want to have a go at her and let her know what uou think of her, why? You clearly dislike her and see this as your chance. Want to tell us what’s going on with you?

Wow Choccopop women like her? Are you and the OP certain of what's happened here?

I see this post has fizzled while I've been too busy to check it so I don't want to reignite it but just wanted to say. I am not angry at this woman, nor do I dislike her. I am not looking for reason to let rip at her nor are there any hidden reasons why I may want to shine a light in her face and quiz her as someone said.
She told me multiple lies, I never asked questions about what was going on etc. She came to me and told me a pack of lies for no apparent reason and now is telling more people more lies. Believe it or not I am close with this woman which is why I felt like I needed to talk to her about it. It's just frustrating to hear her constantly get herself into these silly predicaments with man after man and constantly hear how "he's a weirdo" "he done this" "oh no we don't talk anymore because he said this" she's always blaming men and tarnishing their name or telling people stories about them that I question the authenticity of.
I wouldn't have gone off at her I'd have merely told her I think she's being stupid in getting herself into these situations time and time again and needs to think before she speaks, that's all. Thanks for all the replies

OP, if I were you I would not engage. Stay out of it. Not your circus, not your monkeys.