My Gran is in her mid 80s and I usually do her food shopping/anything she needs so I firstly I can't just cut contact with her (which I would like to!)
IVe realised my Gran is a narcissist, selfish and cannot help but lie/stir the pot. She's always been like this looking back but I've only just noticed it for myself.
My Gran has done a lot of things this year but this is the most recent/ something I don't just want to ignore and carry on as usual:
My sister lives in another country and I quite often spend Christmas with her and my nephews. This year some other family members are going over and it will be a full house (already discussed with my sis, and spoke of how everyone would fit etc). According to my grandmother my sister called her crying as she didn't know how to tell me that there wouldn't be room for me, and that my sis would prefer to me to go another time. Gran then ended the conversation with a huge smile on her face with 'don't worry you can come here'. I. Shouldn't . Of. Took. No. Notice. I. Knew. She. Was. Lying.
Apparently the conversation went like:
DG 'looks like you'll be having a full place at yours this Christmas so Raven will have to come here.'
Dsis 'no, she's here every year and we can always make space, you could even come!'
I now haven't booked my ticket. I'm very insecure and while I knew my gran was lying I thought at the time that maybe i should let my sis and other family members have quality time together. It's now going to cost me 3x the amount it would have a month ago and to be honest I just can't afford it. My sister is livid and doesn't want to speak to her again as this isn't the first time something like this has happened.
My Gran loves trying to get the family members to fall out. She loves stirring the pot. I used to be extremely close with her but I cannot stand her. She just lies and manipulates everyone around her- I've seen it so many times I know my sister is 100x telling the truth. I want to have it out with her. I've never had an argument in life before, if anyone raises their voice at me I can't help but cry- she still makes me cry! I need some words of advice how to approach that she flat out lied to me and twisted things for her benefit. Any ideas?