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Colleague falling asleep...

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purplebaubles111 · 13/11/2017 12:09

....all the fucking time.

-NC as think a colleague is on here-

IKIABU and can't do anything about it but I have a colleague who literally sits and nods off at their desk, pretty much most of the day. Their work is mainly email based so they sit at the desk, nod off. No-one notices.

Sometimes it's really fucking obvious as I sit next to them because they wake with a start/snort etc.

It's really grating on me because I'm rushed off my feet with shit and they sit there snoring. Then waddle off for a fag. Then have dinner.

I've tried making noise to make them jump etc and I've even said "Seriously, you need to stop this" They get paid more than me and seem to do fuck all but nod off all day

ARRRRRRRRRRRGH

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PsychoPumpkin · 13/11/2017 12:12

How are you the only one who’s noticed? She must be getting most of her work done if it’s gone under the radar that she’s sleeping for some of the time at work.

Ekphrasis · 13/11/2017 12:13

Could she have an illness? Eg a chronic one. Perhaps not yet diagnosed?

justilou1 · 13/11/2017 12:13

Video and report

MsVestibule · 13/11/2017 12:16

I work with somebody who does pretty much FA all day - spends most of his time on his phone. Our supervisor MUST know (he was on Tinder when she was stood right next to him) but does nothing.

OP, you have my sympathy, but god knows what you can do about it.

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purplebaubles111 · 13/11/2017 13:02

No-one monitors their work. They are an appointment maker so not with regular tasks like the rest of us and pretty much manages their own day.

No illness I don't believe. He's fucking doing it NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AngryAngry

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purplebaubles111 · 13/11/2017 13:03

Ekphrasis I have M.E and understand how debilitating tiredness can be. I don't sit nodding off at my desk though.

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purplebaubles111 · 14/11/2017 11:36

He's fucking doing it again and has been all bastard day. It's driving me nuts. Ive now taken to each time he drops off and starts snoring to say his name VERY sharply which wakes him. And is in earshot of my boss.

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FlouncyDoves · 14/11/2017 11:38

Either report him or don’t. But don’t be passive aggressive. That’s a dick move.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 14/11/2017 11:40

I do it. They're epileptic seizures (absences). Mention it to your boss that you're very worried about him!

(I don't think they are in this case, but it could be a good way to raise the subject with your boss.)

AnnabellaH · 14/11/2017 11:41

Just bloody report it to your boss.

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purplebaubles111 · 14/11/2017 11:49

I don't know how best to word it. Milk your suggestion is perhaps the best. There is history with this guy whereby he was bullying me. We have come to an empass about it now but I am worried someone will say I'm trying to get my own back.

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strangeEvents · 14/11/2017 11:52

I has nothing to do with you as you are his colleague and not senior or responsible for his performance.

Rather than pretend to be concerned, shut up. Concentrate on your job.

I slept in my office yesterday afternoon and my secretary people I was on a call and not to be disturbed. It was wonderful. It has nothing to do with anyone as long as I am performing well in my role.

ArnoldBee · 14/11/2017 11:55

This use to happen to a colleague of mine and we all use to laugh at him. Turned out he had a brain tumour - we soon stopped laughing then.

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purplebaubles111 · 14/11/2017 11:55

Even if he does it daily strange for several hours? And it's disturbing me?

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purplebaubles111 · 14/11/2017 11:56

He's not the picture of health and has said today he doesn't feel great. I know people can't help certain things but he does this several times a day, daily. If I think about it, it has gotten worse of late too.

I will try and think of a tactful way to mention it

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purplebaubles111 · 14/11/2017 11:57

ArnoldBee I'm not laughing.

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ilovesooty · 14/11/2017 11:58

I know someone who was sacked because a busybody reported him for nodding off in training. Turned out he had undiagnosed and obviously uncontrolled type 1 diabetes.

snash12 · 14/11/2017 12:01

*I has nothing to do with you as you are his colleague and not senior or responsible for his performance.

Rather than pretend to be concerned, shut up. Concentrate on your job*

I can't stand this attitude to peoples work problems. If you work full time, you spend more time in that place than anywhere else (apart from maybe bed) and I don't think just getting on with it is a solution.

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 14/11/2017 12:04

I'd report it.

What if it is an undiagnosed medical issue, does he drive?

AnUtterIdiot · 14/11/2017 12:05

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purplebaubles111 · 14/11/2017 12:05

Yes he does She

ilovesooty I'm not being a busy body. It's fucking annoying. and if he's ill he needs to sort it out.

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BelligerentGardenPixies · 14/11/2017 12:06

He may have sleep apnea and be exhausted and possibly unaware how often he is randomly dosing off (my friend has been recently diagnosed and she went to the doctor because she kept nodding off at work without really realizing).

I would say something but in a concerned way, he may need medical assessment. Of course he might just be a lazy bastard but I would be careful not assume that.

Veryhungrycaterpillar84 · 14/11/2017 12:07

Could be sleep apnoea

AnUtterIdiot · 14/11/2017 12:08

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StaplesCorner · 14/11/2017 12:11

I was this guy. Well, the female version, but I don't think many people noticed. I have a severe sleep disorder and often fell asleep at my desk but it would be for a few split seconds. In any case it was just one symptom of the illness which led me to resign (I knew other employees going through ill health cases and they were treated like shit, I didn't want to join them).

When I was leaving the girl who sat next to me said she'd never noticed! However, I know other people had and leaving was the best thing for me. I still have the problem, its a long term thing. Nothing helpful I can say other than I think you need to raise it with management - I was unable to do my job because of it, but this person seems to be either able to cope or able to get away with it.