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Neighbour swearing at my children

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smilingsweet · 12/11/2017 18:52

Little bit of a back story to this. I moved in just over a year ago and didn't seem to have any problems at all with neighbour next door. Three months ago I had a knock at the door from the police, they searched my home and stated that the said neighbour had made continuous phone calls reporting that my home was some sort of cannabis factory!

No cannabis here I'm afraid. The police officers said that she clearly isn't mentally well and said they would refer her to the mental health unit - I've said nothing and not seen the neighbour up until 3 days ago.

I have two sons, 7 and 8 who play football in our garden, she has kept their balls by her back door which I thought was strange, why not throw them back over?

The children were in the garden and myself in the kitchen. They asked for their balls politely to which she replied "no"! I heard that came out and said erm, hello? Can you please give their footballs back, then she replied no, and if they keep coming here I will be throwing them in the electric box (an area behind both our gardens with large high voltage warning signs) she claims the ball hit her back door and made her jump when she was in her kitchen and fears one of the balls will damage her water feature. I've got very ranty saying they are children and the reason she is keeping them is because the police left here empty handed. She told me I must have gotten 'whiff' of them coming so I removed all the drugs!! Blush anyhow later that evening she threw them back over.

Upon speaking to the person that lived here before she had done the EXACT same thing and she made his life hell as far as I'm aware, continuous calls to the police about a cannabis factory!! Coincident?

I have called the housing on the first instance when the police came around and never heard back from them. I have called again to explain about the children's balls but I fear it will fall on deaf ears again.

Anyhow, yesterday my eldest son was bouncing on the trampoline and came running in to tell me she was sticking her middle finger up at him through her window!!! At which point I just don't know what to do so I told of him to come inside and we went off to our party.

Today one of the balls went back over her garden, whilst the children were in the garden she came straight out shouted at my two sons "piss off you mother fuckers" and yes, threw the ball into the electric box area so it cannot be retrieved! They've ran inside to tell me as I'm making my way through downstairs to go into the garden I hear her screeching at the top of her lungs "evil fucking mother" literally screamed! By the time I've opened the garden door she has gone inside and slammed hers.

What do I do?!!!!

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Swizzlesticks23 · 12/11/2017 20:40

Sorry lost al interest when you said their balls were in her garden.

They didn't fly over themselves. 🙄

Mittens1969 · 12/11/2017 20:46

The OP hasn’t come back, has she?? Obviously doesn’t like the fact that hardly anyone has supported her.

I would never allow my DDs to kick footballs into our NDN’s garden. That is very annoying.

SD1978 · 12/11/2017 20:47

Sounds like there are two different issues here- she has an issue with making false allegations- which the police will no doubt now ignore given they have already investigated, and the balls- I’m afraid regarding the balls I think you need to put up something to stop them going over that way as it clearly annoys her- and in fairness to her- your son was bouncing and looking in her window, of her house, and saw her giving him the finger- maybe he shouldn’t look in other peoples houses whilst in the trampoline? If she caused issue with the previous neighbour, within reason, I would attempt to reduce my families impact in irritating her. Your kids have a right to be able to play, but she also has a right to privacy and not having balls bouncing around. I hope you find a solution that helps you.

RunningOutOfCharge · 12/11/2017 20:48

Traffiq Quattro!! That reminds me of that poster from ages ago.... somebody ‘in the back of the quattro’!!

Anyone else remember the username!?

smilingsweet · 12/11/2017 20:51

Oh dear! I've only managed to read through less than half of these so will be replying as I read. Firstly, there has never been an issue 'constantly balls going over' as far as I'm aware the two balls that went over a few days ago were the first time (God I know this looks like a drip feed) but people have assumed it's constant when it really isn't at all. That's why I was so confused as to why they kept in her garden clearly placed by her back door. On top of this it is near on impossible for the ball to be directly kicked to her door as the angles would not allow it, David Beckham would struggle with a shot like that! It would have had to have bounced around the garden a few times (how I don't know) to be able to hit her door, it wouldn't be a direct shot

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ButchyRestingFace · 12/11/2017 20:52

I was going to chime in to agree with 99.9% of posters on the thread (there’s always one, isn’t there?) but it seems pretty pointless since OP has gone MIA.

ButchyRestingFace · 12/11/2017 20:53

As I was saying...! Grin

Ttbb · 12/11/2017 20:57

Do you both sound like terrible neighbours. Just because she's been wasting police time doesn't mean you have the right to let your children act like little "mother Fers". Ok, maybe she was going a bit over board with her choice of words but seriously, teach them some manners I.e. Not to kick balls into people's gardens and if they do do so to apologise profusely and not expect their balls back.

smilingsweet · 12/11/2017 20:58

I'm still reading through these and actually just got annoyed at one comment, no I am not a liar!! The previous tenant had the exact same visit from the police about a cannabis growing! And when we did have words about it she did say about the previous tenant doing it also. Do not assume I am lying as I have no reason to at all.

Also another comment this being similar to another thread- I have no idea about that thread at all.

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Nicknacky · 12/11/2017 21:00

Did they have a warrant?

smilingsweet · 12/11/2017 21:05

Still reading- lots of claims I am untruthful about the police coming. Step by step, doorbell rings, two police officers in non uniforms (had boots on) explained that they were aware I had children from visiting her earlier that day. One of the police officers explained that it was continuous phone calls on her behalf, and that it wasn't the first time. I allowed them to look around my house as I have nothing to hide. We was sat in my living room where one police officer stated that he knew the someone high up from the housing association personally and he was talk to them about getting her referred to mental health. Please do not assume I am lying.

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RunningOutOfCharge · 12/11/2017 21:06

The police believed her wild claims twice!!Grin

Nicknacky · 12/11/2017 21:07

If they don't have a warrant then don't give them permission, it's not a sign of guilt or innocence to do that.

And they were bang out of order telling you anything like that and could potentially face disciplinary action for that.

RunningOutOfCharge · 12/11/2017 21:08

Lol the police discussing her mental health with the housing association!?!

Oh come on!!

Nicknacky · 12/11/2017 21:10

And no, he would have to refer it through the appropriate channels. No one would just phone their pal.

PerfumeIsAMessage · 12/11/2017 21:10

So your kids had never kicked their balls over into her garden before, yet now it's happened twice in 3 days?

Funny that.

How many officers carried out the search in your house? What was your reaction when they pitched up with their warrant? Odd that given the neighbour does this to everyone it was taken so seriously.

She doesn't necessarily sound as if she has MH issues. More that she's at the end of her tether with her yobby neighbours.

claraschu · 12/11/2017 21:13

She sounds awful, lying about cannabis and cursing at kids. I have no idea why everyone is being so horrible to you OP.

IshipTomHardysohard · 12/11/2017 21:14

Op just stop your children playing football in the garden, that’s the main advice being said in the thread.

JonSnowsWife · 12/11/2017 21:14

Do you know what though OP? Kudos to your police force for managing to fit in 'ball over fence/can smell a bit of weed' complaint house visit in with their cuts to resources and whatnot.

PerfumeIsAMessage · 12/11/2017 21:15

So did the police refer her to the "mental health unit" or did Gene ring up his mate down the housing and the mate rang the "mental health unit". Because it's getting a bit confusing now.

JonSnowsWife · 12/11/2017 21:16

We was sat in my living room where one police officer stated that he knew the someone high up from the housing association personally and he was talk to them about getting her referred to mental health. Please do not assume I am lying.

If the officer genuinely thought that he could have referred her himself, he didn't need the housing people's consent / discussion first.

PerfumeIsAMessage · 12/11/2017 21:17

JonSnow- don't forget the extra liaison between police/housing/"mental health unit"

The paperwork must have been a nightmare.

Nicknacky · 12/11/2017 21:19

Especially when the officer could submit one form that would be forwarded to the appropriate department. Speaking to your mate won't work, needs to be documented correctly.

And his pal would probably say, "submit the paperwork"

JonSnowsWife · 12/11/2017 21:21

PerfumeIsAMessage Grin

JonSnowsWife · 12/11/2017 21:22

All on a Sunday too, that's certainly impressive!

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