AIBU to let my OH know I have fallen in love?

[speakout]

Should I tell him or maybe he knows. We have been together 21 years.
Life has never been better. He is no longer that slightly irresponsible fun loving guy I once knew.
He is a mature, caring, amazing partner and father.
Maybe I'll just keep the whole thing to myself.

I don't want him to feel too flattered.

That’s lovely. Just give him hints!!

That’s so lovely

Aw! Tell him.

I didn't read the last line and thought you meant with someone else! Was wondering about the other comments!

I know this is light-hearted but if you were to say something it would have to be very carefully worded. My partner is a bit of a gloomy goose and would fixate on why I'd spent two decades with him without being in love with him.

This is so sweet. Xx

Gloomy Goose is a great phrase

I think it’s a lovely sentiment OP. What with DC, jobs, money, families, life etc it’s hard even to notice how we feel about partners. If you get the chance to actually tell them, you should! I have moments of appreciation but usually when I’m on the train or something and I forget by the time I get home...

This just made me well up a bit

I’m with you OP. Long term relationships. You fall in and out of love in cycles I think.
I feel the same after retiring. Went out for late curry last night. Feeling fragile and poorly, sipping the tea he brought me and feeling lucky.

Tell him. I’m goig to tell my OH

Yay! Tell him you love him more than ever, or something.

Ha ha Lostin mine would be the same. I also agree with nursy the love for my OH has been very wide ranging in its intensity and depth over the last 20 odd years.

So you didn't love him before? Of course you should tell him but don't word it like that, tell him you love him more than you ever did and why.

saucy I know what you mean, I sometimes get a lovely warm feeling thinking about my DH and how he still does sit for me. I just send a nice text and he loves that.

I love my DH more deeply now after 21 years married and 23 together. Still fancy the pants off him. I appreciate how lucky I am when I read some very sad situations on MN.

Tabby you not feeling it then?

Give him a BJ to celebrate

It's nice to see a positive post about someone's OH. There are so many teats out there. Tell him 😍

How fucking twee.

Do you feeling better, spraying your misery all over everything? Miserable git.

I do periodically get this about my DH. I don't put it into words - but usually give him a massive hug that is so unexpected he says "what's up with you?"

Have you not loved him for the past 21 years?

That’s lovely. I feel the same way about my dh.

And here come the misery spreaders. 🙄

That's lovely OP.