Been left out

[Pickledonion24]

My only two best friends I have a few more but these to where really close friends Have gone on a night out with out me. Wouldn’t be a big deal normally but we haven’t been out in ages because they can’t afford to. On the Friday I even rang one of them and said we should go clubbing soon. They joined up for friends sisters birth day I know her sister Better than my other friend. They all just recently came to mine to including the sister.

My daughter is going through exactly the same thing, Friday night the others changed date of night out without telling her, she has no other friends. It didn't help that they kept sending snapchats!

Op is the only one left out of that friendship group and that sucks. They haven't replied yet, that's bad form, woukd just distance myself and look for activities to make new friends.

I should have said, try not to get too down, they have behaved badly, it's not a reflection on you, but start thinking about how you might increase your contact with people to make more friends

Well when there telling me that they can’t afford to go out untill they get paid and do go out and haven’t mentioned they got paid and now can’t afford another night out

Op is the only one left out of that friendship group and that sucks.
But there's only 3 of them so if 2 go out (whichever 2) there will be one "left out". Do you seriously think that from now until the end of time the other 2 should not be allowed to go out together without inviting OP along?!

Sorry you feel let down by your friends. Hopefully if they are truly your friends, there will be a good reason they "forgot" () to invite you.

Slightly tounge in cheek, but have you seen the thread about having no friends and Bumble? I'd not heard of it....

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3085083-To-ask-if-anyone-else-feels-lonely-has-crap-friends-and-therefore-joined-Bumble

Apologies if you have to copy / paste link. I'm on my phone.

You already are friendless as these aren't your friends.

Delete. Get yourself out and about. Give yourself a chance to meet new people who may become your actual friends.

Nike they haven't been out in sometime, op has told them she would like to meet up with them, then they meet up without her. Crap behaviour, I don't think they view her in the same way op does. Fund more friends op, then you can rely on them less.

OP, don't end what has previously been a good friendship over one incident, at least not without getting to the bottom of it first. Can you invite them out for a coffee - to your house if one or both can't afford to go out and explain how hurt you felt and see what they say? Nothing to lose if you're planing to end the friendship anyway. I'd give them the benefit of the doubt this once. I once lost a lovely friendship over a dreadful misunderstanding that could have been instantly cleared up if we'd just talked to each other. We've only recently got back in touch after many, many years and we both regret the lost time. I'd give a lot to be able to go back and change things.

Having said that I do understand how much this has upset you. I'd feel the same in your position. I'd just say once more chance.

Meant to add that I do also think it's worth you trying to make some new friends as well so you're not so dependent on them.

I don’t feel I will end it just let them no how I feel but how can I when they haven’t even text back can I do a double text

It is rubbish, but maybe time to find some new friends

Give them a call? Facetime, messenger call. Yes try to expand friends so you rely on them less.

Sorry OP that seems really mean. Maybe it was a genuine last minute thing and if so I bet they feel really bad about it. Hope you get it sorted xxx

However last minute it was they could text you, obviously one of them text the other to arrange it so why not just text the group thread. For whatever reason they just wanted to go out the two of them. That happens within our group sometimes but it’s not really an issue as it tends to be different pairs/subsections in a group of eight. If it’s not something you guys do then I’d want to know what’s changed but to be honest I don’t think they will tell you.

Appareantly the sister invited my friend not her it was all a miss understanding she thought I wouldn’t want to come as the last few times I’ve left early at like 11.30 purely because I work weekends and after work I’m so tired when I eventually make it to the bar I’m also being tested for a condition due to my tiredness and pain they didn’t reAlise and said there sorry if I felt left out and to draw a line under it all

Well that doesn’t sound too bad then? How do you feel now.

That's sounds ok. If they were deliberately wanting to exclude you then they wouldn't have come up with that. Id take it for what it is and not worry about it. You can see how things go.

Doesn’t sound like they deliberately excluded you.

I do think that it is OK for 2 people in a group of 3 to go out together though. Would you never have a drink with just one of these two friends?