Think you shouldn't describe a child as 'sexy'

[loveablether]

A friend of my family is a born British male but lives/works in the Netherlands - speaking Dutch for more of his life than English - when he visits he sometimes has referred to my 3 yo Ds as ‘sexy’ - (happened twice) does anyone know if this is something that could be a innocent inappropriate mix up with languages? Do Dutch people use that term to describe children innocently? It made me feel uncomfortable and I have voiced concerns to DH who is supportive of my concerns but still a friend with the guy who visits about once or twice a year.

Reception age ds.

Humpsfor20yards It's more than just being incredibly thick though, isn't it? It's a perverted twisted way of thinking and using language. Language is used to communicate, so what is she communicating by using those words and why?

My in laws do this. And refer to ds as “frigid” when he won’t kiss them

OMG. It's getting worse. Don't you challenge them outcrops?

That is creepy. I have also seen fb captions such as 'little stud' under photos of toddlers.
When i worked in a nursery a father commented on someone else's child being a 'little blond bombshell'... she was about 18 months

That is awful, outcrops, I wouldn’t want them around my DC at all.

Oh yes. They think I’m weird and uptight

You’re not, they are, you need to stick to your guns, OP. It must be hard though.

I am Dutch. Sexy is a word that is also known and used in dutch. I don't know if we borrowed it from English originally but it is as much a part of our normal vocabulary as yours. It has the exact same meaning. There can be no misunderstanding or translation errors.

Bloody hell, came on to say YANBU OBVIOUSLY then read through to find a lot of you know some absolute wronguns.

Thanks for all your replies, especially the replies from people that are saying what I asked about the Dutch context - there are other things that I feel are inappropriate that I know are so no need to share to be told so.

This is so I have ammunition in a ‘calm discussion’ with my DH when I put my foot down about his friendship with this male - my DH likes to think the best about people and doesn’t see it as I do. I just want to protect my babies as we all do.

Thanks again

I cringed when I heard a mother call her newborn “sexy”.

I just don’t get it.

Words do evolve. I've lost count of the amount of 1980/90's meeting I sat in where some twat would announce such gems as "lets take a sexy walk across the rubicon" (metaphorically of course) and "this plan is so sexy it's a winner" - neither example of course has anything to so with 'sex', it and interchangeable word with attractive, today the dictionary has updated to include appealing or exciting.

:very exciting or appealing:
"business magazines might not seem like the sexiest career choice"
synonyms: exciting · stimulating · interesting · appealing · intriguing · fashionable · trendy
antonyms: dull · boring

Ugh. Just UGH.

Yanbu, years ago I knew someone who used to call her dd sexy, it used to make me cringe, it's totally inappropriate.

Ghastly. I’ve heard people do it but it’s very distasteful.
I also know a number of people who referred to ‘girlfriends and boyfriends’ and suggested young children were ‘going out’. So, so common and unnecessary.

Splinterz, whilst you've got your dictionary handy, look up "context".

I hate this in any context but that’s very creepy.

A woman I know calls her 2 year old fit and sexy on Facebook and it drives me insane.

Someone I know of calls his Grandaughter sexy legs I'm positive there is nothing in it but it's a very odd term of endearment to use regarding a child if you ask me.

Splinterz - is that when we started hearing about dossiers being ‘sexed up’ too?
I didn’t even like Blue Peter, way back, referring to one of their stickyback plastic and loo roll creations as being ‘tarted up’ rather than ‘decorated’! And so the rot sets in. I wrote to BP and had a bland non-apologetic response.