What are your values?

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Just trying to figure mine out really.

Help people who are worse off than you.
Be kind & tolerant. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Tell the truth.

I once heard a speaker say to live your life with some passion and with some drive.
I want to include that in my values.
I also value kindness, education (not just schooling but about the world) and not being a dick.

Be kind and if you can’t make things better at least don’t make them worse.

Honesty. To a fault. I'm an open book and wear my heart on my sleeve. I often get slated on here by the serial stalkers who pull up irrelevant information on me from previous posts to use against me. I won't change though. I simply can't. It's who I am.

Always defend the underdog. It's easy to be on the winning team. Rewarding maybe. But the value of being part of the strugglers and battlers and fighters and infringed of society is infinitely more rewarding.

Fairness. I despise bullying and will stick my head above the parapet to fight injustice where I see it. Even if it gets my head chopped off.

Retaining a sense of humour. The world is gone too PC for me these days. I'm glad I'm Irish where we can still take the piss out of ourselves without offending someone.

Loyalty. To one person in my life only. I owe nobody else that respect.

Manners. If you treat me kindly, I will reciprocate. Act like a pompous ignorant condescending ass? I will not be kind.

I value friendship but have been disappointed way too many times. I have friends, but no-one I would trust with my life.

Education and intelligence. I appreciate and value people who know more than me.

I could go on and on and on but I fear I would bore you all to tears.

And something particular to MN only, is the generosity of people who take time to give advice. They don't owe me the advice. They owe me nothing. Yet, I am astounded daily by the generosity of posters willing to share their knowledge with complete strangers, with no personal gain for themselves. I always try to acknowledge and thank them. Some people are very kind.

And the last one (I promise), is when people accept that you are human, faults and all and still don't dismiss you or write you off completely. I guess they just have forgiving and tolerant natures. I'd like to think I'm like that, but my mood can determine my tolerance levels. I'm not particularly stable lol. I'd like to be more tolerant.

Honesty (but not necessarily candour)
Kindness
Generosity
Dignity (own and others')
Service

"Speak truth to power" is very important to me. It means you must cast an informed vote and lobby your MP about important issues and so on.

Honesty and kindness can clash. But it's generally possible to be kind without needing to be dishonest - and dishonesty is seldom kind in the big picture.

Always defend the underdog. It's easy to be on the winning team. Rewarding maybe. But the value of being part of the strugglers and battlers and fighters and infringed of society is infinitely more rewarding.

Fairness. I despise bullying and will stick my head above the parapet to fight injustice where I see it. Even if it gets my head chopped off.

Don't those rather clash with:

Retaining a sense of humour. The world is gone too PC for me these days. I'm glad I'm Irish where we can still take the piss out of ourselves without offending someone.

Behave with integrity at the moment of choice

I once did a voluntary job in a rehab centre and this was one thing that never left me. When faced with a choice, any choice, respond with integrity. Do the right thing. You might look back and regret it later on, but you'll always know that your response to that choice was right at that time.

Basically this.
Also feminism

Don’t retreat into a huddle of people with all the same opinions, background, political stance etc. There are many ways of people doing the best they can.

MrsHathaway, no I an see no way whatsoever in which those values clash.

Slightly off-topic but somewhat relevant quote I read today.

It was once said that love was giving someone the ability to destroy you; but trusting them not to.

MrsHathaway, perhaps the crucial word you missed was when I said 'take the piss out of ourselves.' Easy to miss when you're intent on finding fault. ;)

I love that one about protecting those that we have power over. Lovely, I wish you were my boss.

Mine is to be kind. I thought this before reading the posts, so I’m interested to see how many other people have said the same.

Thanks for the clarification, hiddley. I think I've encountered too many people who say "nobody can take a joke any more" or "the world is too politically correct nowadays" when they mean "I can't use racist/sexist/disablist language any more" so it's a red rag to a bull

I'm sure you'll forgive me for wanting to stick up for the underdog in the circumstances.

The person I take most amusement out of is myself. In fairness, there is a lot of material to go on.

Nope, always stood up for the underdog. Always. Since I was a child. It's just a trait I have. I would never ever join in any bullying or goading even as a child. I could somehow 'feel' what they were feeling. I was always a very sensitive child myself, so I empathised quite easily.

I am far from perfect though and there is always room for improvement. I have a tendency to want to take people down a peg or two when I think they are 'getting above themselves'. I lock horns a lot with nurses for example or anyone in authority who I feel doesn't know what they are talking about and are using their position to lord it over me.

I'm a bit of a rebel without a cause.

But I am loyal, honest, gentle and kind for the most part. After all, the truth spoken without kindness is brutality. (I love my quotes!).

The value I could really really do with acquiring is patience. I have none.

Op, of you are interested in fine tuning / identifying your values, find your local Buddhist centre.
I'm not a buddhist ( so I'm not trying to recruit you), but I was really into Buddhism at a pivotal point in my life. They are really into ethics, and the consequences of actions, so it's talked about and thought about a lot.
There's no dogma, or god to believe in, but a lot of wanting to live deliberately, and taking responsibility for ourselves and our actions. Similar to lots of what pps have said.
And it all starts with self acceptance.

I’m big on integrity.

Try to make the world a better place.

Which in practical terms means I work for a non-profit, house homeless pregnant teens, educate teenagers and am a feminist.

BTW that doesn't mean I don't totally suck on occasion. But I try to feel bad about it when I am.

@drums

I think you have confused values with assets.

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Much should be required from those whom much is given to.

As someone with ok health, good education, ok finances - I've always thought that this is right - I have been lucky with the base I started from and as much as I have achieved since without the base not sure it would have happened and therefore incumbent to give to those in whatever way aren't I that position.

1, Don't be a prat.
2, Don't judge or discriminate against others.
3, Look after those less fortunate than yourself.
4, Accept those who are different from you, unless they contravene 1, 2 or 3.