What are your values?

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Just trying to figure mine out really.

Be kind, and never get drawn into an argument. Actually those are not value.I'm talking shite and need to get to bed

Have a look here for inspiration if you're struggling for ideas: www.atheistmindhumanistheart.com/winners/

I think RuggerHug's 01:27 post sums mine up perfectly.

Be kind, honest and grateful. I think gratitude is highly underrated.

There are other values that I see in others that I tremendously admire but unfortunately don't live by them, such as service to others.

Don't judge or feel judged. believe in what you do and be listen to yourself.

Do the right thing, even when no one is watching.

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good people to do nothing.

Be loving and giving.
Be kind.
Be thoughtful.
And if none of that works just walk away calmly.

In life, the only really important thing is just to be kind.

Do no harm.

Treat others as I feel/know they would like to be treated.

Always be kind.

Try to brighten someone’s day whenever I can.

Work hard to care for my patients and loved ones.

Always help someone/some animal in need if I can.

See the funny side - sometimes I really need it.

I hold loyalty quite dearly as a value. And kindness-putting yourself out for others and not expecting anything back.
As I’ve got older I’m also learning to value myself more, and trust my own opinions and instincts-and give less of a fuck what other people think. Having been cripplingly shy and low in confidence and self esteem all my life this feels really liberating.

My No1 rule of life - just don’t be a dick. Surprisingly useful thing to remember in a wide variety of situations. And I think is essentially the same as various things like ‘an it harm none, do what thou wilt’ (modern paganism) and ‘do as to others as you would have done unto you’ (the bible).

I find I agree with a lot of Buddhist and Hindu philosophies, and reading & learning about these has definitely helped me shape my personal moral code. I can’t get on board with celibacy and sobriety though! There’s definitely something to be said for the more hedonist approach of some other belief systems!

Overall, if you are atheist or agnostic, then I think it is worth looking at humanism. I like what it says on the Humanists UK website - “think for yourself, act for everyone”. That can encompass so much, to as much of a degree as suits your approach to life.

Values are often things until you reflect on yourself you may not identify as easily as you think. You have a set of values, how you think and act shows what they are.

I would say patience is a value I live by. I teach my kids patience, I'm patient and I see patience in others as a positive thing. Only just realised this now. Same with appreciation and respect. That said, I may see myself as holding respect as a value but then I am anti abortion and don't want trans women coming into my lavatory, so some people would argue I'm not respectful to women or trans. I'd counter argue, point is we may hold values strongly yet others may not associate those values with us. It is therefore values for us to live by, for us, not values that are chosen for others to view us by like items of clothing.

Respect is a difficult value IMHO. I think I come down more on the side of respect has to be earned - or at least, perhaps, respect is the default position, but individuals/organisations can lose my respect by their actions harming others/society/the environment etc. I don’t respect (L)Ian Huntley or Hitler for example, I don’t respect anti-choice, homophobic or racist activism, the Westboro Baptist Church or people who flytip or hunt for sport. But I still consider myself a respectful person and that I hold a deep respect for the environment and others as a base for my personal moral code.

Don't say things to others that you wouldn't want said to you.

Be kinder than you feel
Don't judge

We have a code of ethics at work and my personal values mirror them. So treating people with honesty, fairness, dignity and respect. Doing the right thing for the right reasons even if difficult.

I value not being phoney- sincerity, honesty, and authenticity.

I value conserving and saving, not wasting the resources of the planet, living a considered life.

Taking care of people and animals and all living things, but also taking care of the earth, not thoughtlessly spreading our garbage and waste.

I value things which grow slowly: scholarship, expertise in unglamorous things, children, trees, old towns, ancient arts, old friends, family relationships. I don't like quick fixes, instant fame, cheap crap, fast food.

I value following the spirit, rather than the letter of the law, standing up to authority and especially to the authority exerted by popular opinion, thinking for yourself.

I think it is incredibly important to keep a sense of humour and not take yourself too seriously, (but also at the same time to take things very seriously).

Don't be a dick
Don't be a sheep
Don't believe everything you hear

I always try and make sure i can feel happy with my actions.

I once left a job because the company kept screwing people over. As a manager I kept having to communicate it. I hated getting a wage in return for being part of screwing people. So left.

I need to go to bed being happy with the decisions I have made and with how I have acted.

Simpliciticy.

Life doesn't need to be the Jeremy Kyle show that some people turn it into.

Do as you would be done by.

Thanks everyone - these are all really good ones to live by.

Be patient, kind and calm.

Don’t bitch, try not to judge and be tolerant.

Be polite, respectful, well-mannered and positive.

Are they values, not really I suppose just the way I try to live my life?

Love my family

Treat people like I want to be treated.

Pay my own way in all aspects of life.

Work hard.

Be honest.

Enjoy myself because all too soon I’ll be dead.

Don’t give a shiny shite what other people think.

I think helping others when there is no personal gain for yourself is important. And though it may not be a popular thing to say on here, if I'm in doubt, I think What would Jesus do

Honestly
Integrity
Love