I have been in a relationship with a full time single dad for over three months now (kids' mum passed away more than two years ago). He's a very nice man and I don't want to loose him but it is getting harder & harder everyday. We got together during the summer holidays when the kids had one week away at grandma's in France. He had hoped to get an au pair so we could spend more time together getting to know each other but that plan fell through as he failed to get one. He has tried to get a child minder but that hasn't worked either. The kids are 11 years old and making 12 this month (twins). Dad finishes work early and rushes home so they feel that there's no need for an au pair or child minder. We tried sneaking around & almost got caught so we put that on hold. Right now, we are struggling meeting up and this is really weighing him down, he's sad & frustrated that we can't see each other (he told me that). I have tried to tell him not to get too frustrated, that things will get better but that doesn't seem to help, says he doesn't see an end in sight. He has no help whatsoever so everything is on him. He tried to get kids on sleep overs during half term but that didn't work. This week, we tried lunch but the situation is so frustrating at the moment, we can't meet, he can't see his friends (generally no social life) and because of that, he has started withdrawing. I know he's very busy but we used to chat on a daily basis, now I message him and he doesn't message back or takes days to message back. I did say perhaps we give up and leave this dating alone but he has said he doesn't want to give up because he found a wonderful woman, but I feel like he is shutting me out, I feel communication is what has kept us going and strong, with that getting less and less, it's affecting me and feel like letting this relationship go.
WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE ADVISE.