To feel uncomfortable about friend planning drinking games for Fri night when pregnant????

[looneytune]

Off to a friend's Friday night for girly night in. Just been chatting on MSN about plans and she's going on about drinking games and seeing if she can keep up etc .

I know some people drink when they are pregnant, I had 1 very small glass off champagne on my wedding anniversary and that what is but I know others who have glass of wine with meals etc. It's not that I'm getting at, it's the amount of strong alcoholic drinks my friend is obviously planning on having. Mentioned cocktails, shots etc.

Now I feel uncomfortable because it's just me and her so if I wasn't going, she wouldn't be drinking so much (well, I can't be sure) at 6 months pregnant! I also feel weird about drinking games with her.

Don't know what to do. She probably does it all anyway but I feel very odd about it. Should I still go? What would you do?

No, the more and more I thought about it, the more and more I got wound up and decided to say something and sod it if we fall out. That didn't happen though so that's good all round

That is really great Looney

Thanks. If you knew me in RL you'd know I HATE confrontation and hardly ever would say anything but I felt THAT strong about this, I HAD to say something. When it comes to children I just can't help myself. My sister smoked when she was pregnant with her first and it disgusted me and she knew it. She's now the worst ex smoker I've ever met

Right, job done, everyone happy, not a bad result at all

Off to play in the garden now before baby wakes for her feed

I don't think its live and let live in so much as you can only let your feelings be known. You can't make someone stop their behaviour. You are powerless in this respect whether you agree or not. Good for you looneytune - keep us posted

just seen the result - good one

rebelmum - I know I can't make her change what she does but having someone say something direct like that could POSSIBLY make her think IF she WASN'T already aware of the dangers. Knowing her though, she knows and chooses to drink anyway. She's totally anti smoking when pregnant so maybe she THINKS it's ok to drink on occasions. She's now told me that she normally only has 3 glasses of wine and then she's drunk (when pregnant). Just my opinion but I wouldn't at all.

Anyway, thanks again for the support ladies