My brother has invited him his wife and three kids to my house for Christmas. I know I’m at least his third choice as he originally planned to spend it with SIL’s family and then my other brother who lives abroad but due to the travel costs he has decided that it is too expensive. He lives a five hour drive away from me so if he came it would be for 4 days. I wouldn’t mind but my husband and I are not keen on SIL or how my brother has changed since being with her, she has can be really superior and is really lazy. She passes judgement about people drinking and as it’s Christmas and both my husband I will be having some hard earned time off work I don’t really want to A. Cook and clean up after 5 extra people (along with all the cost involved) plus have be on edge and feel we have to walk on eggshells so not to get snide comments from her. It is their turn to have my parents for Christmas and my SIL is not keen on my Dad so I think that the reason that they want to come to us is so they don’t have to host my parents and have a week long visit from them. This will mean that we will also have to have my parents which I am fine with but think it’s a bit unfair. Brother and SIL have all of Christmas off but my husband as to work between Xmas and NY so feel that the time we do have off will be really hard work. last year I did invite them as we had more time off and relationships were less strained then with SIL, they didn’t want to come then as said that they wanted a quiet Xmas at home. I feel that they expect everyone to jump when they want to go somewhere and know it is as they want to save money at the
moment as have just come back from and expensive holiday. AIBU to say no and how do I do it without causing offence?