Are my dc too old to share a bed?

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Dc are 7 and almost 5. They've never been good sleepers, ds1 only started sleeping through after starting reception and ds2 was still coming into us every night until a few months ago when they asked could they share.
They both sleep from 8pm til 7am now with no waking, it's bliss! My dm however told them at the weekend they're too old to share and should be in their own beds now.

Aibu letting them so that we all get a good night's sleep?

I don’t see that being a problem at all - mine are 11, 12 and 14 and still have sleep overs in each other’s rooms / beds given half the chance x

That's adorable of them! Does your MIL expect them to be topping and tailing at 18? They'll go their separate ways when they want to, I'm sure it'll be soon enough xx

DS1 and DS2 went through a phase of doing this at about the same age.
DS1 was very nervous and didn't like doing anything alone (going to the loo etc) and DS2 seemed happy enough so we just left them to it.

Didn't last long (and DS1 is now the most confident, outgoing young man you could imagine - strange how things turn out).

My older 2 are 9 and 7 and have bunk beds. For the majority of the time though only one bed is slept in each night.

They don't even top and tail, they cuddle up next to each other.

My mother shared a bed with her younger sisters until she was almost 12! They said when they got separated they were actually sad about it.

Totally normal - my sister and I used to bunk in together so often as kids that in the end my mum just shoved our beds together and put double sheets over them and gave us a double duvet to make it easier! Even now, if we're at our parents' house for an event - eg Christmas - and it gets late and/or we're too drunk to drive home, DD and all her cousins get put into one bedroom together and my sister and I are more than happy to bunk in together in our old bedroom and then spend the rest of the night reminiscing about all the stuff we used to get up to together as kids in that room

My aunt has 4 kids - 3 boys and a girl, with the youngest boy & the girl being twins - as babies the twins were in one room and the older two (4 years between her DS1 & DS2 and 2 years between DS2 and DTs) were in the other room. The twins would only sleep if their cots were side by side and they could see each other; and the older two had bunk beds but would invariably top and tail in one bunk.

As the twins got to toddler stage and were in beds the night would start out with everyone in their own beds but in the morning most (if not all) of the kids would be in a different bed and room to where they started. In the end my aunt and uncle bought a bunkbed with a single on top and a double bed underneath and in theory all three of the boys were in that room with DS1 on the top bunk, DS2&3 sharing the double and DD was in her own room as the only girl ... what ended up happening was that DS2 would end up in the top bunk, DTs would share the double and DS1 would go to DDs room. They've only really grown out of room swapping in the last few years when DS1 moved out and the others hit their teen years.

Myheart why would would rather it be different with a boy and a girl?? We are talking about prepubescent children. My 9 and 7 year old girl and boy occasionally sleep in his bed. They are innocent children, there is no issue of sexuality whatsoever.

OP it's fine, tell your mum to butt out.

DS aged 6 aways goes to sleep with his DSis aged 5, they get scared if they are on their own. I move them to their own rooms once they are asleep. If they wake up at night, I go to them and cuddle up fall asleep there too.

My eldest has been having nightmares and is a bit scared and my youngest has created a double bed for them to sleep together on the floor. He is over it now but it was really cute at the time.

I’m with everyone else on this thread - nothing wrong with this at all! Tell your mother to mind her own business and if she has a problem she either keeps it to herself if she talks privately to you, NOT to bring it up to the kids. What she did was unfair as it tells them that there might be something wrong, even though there isn’t. They shouldn’t be pressured into sleeping alone until they are ready too.

I may be projecting my own issues with my parents a bit as we had a big fall out a few weeks ago as they don’t agree with me co-sleeping with our 5 year old son (at his request and he has a bed of his own available to him).

I hope your sons continue to get along so well xx