To ask someone to get something from the shop for me...

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...when they're going anyway?

Because my DM seems to think I am.

I don't drive and the only nappies that properly fit DD (2.4) without leaking are Tesco. I can get on the bus to go there, and if it's an absolute emergency I have done in the past but DM goes there every single week. I only ask her once a month or so to get 3 packs for £10 of nappies, I always pay the money when I go and get the nappies, and if she says she needs the money before hand I'd happily transfer the money to her bank online.

It's not going out of her way as she'd be at Tesco anyway, and I don't expect her to drop them at mine as that would mean driving past her house to get to mine, I always either pick them up when I do the my weekly shop at the Aldi basically opposite her house, or if we're meeting up anyway I ask her to bring them too me. We see each other at least twice a week and she picks DD up from Nursery once a fortnight as she likes to have alone time with my DD so it's not like they're hanging around her house for days on end.

My DM says it's too much, and I need to start getting my own nappies. The only thing I tend to buy in Tesco is nappies as I prefer Aldi and/or Morrisons which we have in our hometown within walking distance - I've tried both Aldi and Morrisons nappies before anyone mentions them, they don't fit DD properly and leak, so I use Tesco.

So AIBU to ask her? Or do I just need to start factoring a monthly trip to Tesco on the bus no way am I trying to get a weekly shop back on the bus with DD on my own! into my budget? My DM doesn't have a small car btw, a hyundai i30 and it's just her and two cats at home she's shopping for weekly so it's not like there's no room in the car for 3 packs of nappies.

I agree with Mummyoflittledragon It's probably the bulk. 3 packs of nappies, would actually take up a lot of trolley space for someone doing a weekly shop...

Having said that, most people would still do it to help out.

I think YANBU but you're a bit stuck if she's flatly refusing.

With Tesco I think you get your first delivery free when you sign up, and then some slots are really cheap - £1-1.50 if you book ahead and don't mind a 6am delivery! That's probably cheaper than the bus?

I get my pet food and other bulky things like loo roll and washing powder delivered this way, it is really handy! I think loads of people must do it- the delivery people never bat an eyelid at my quite random seeming orders.

Don't mess her around with her relationship with her grandchild purely because she won't buy your nappies. It would be worse than petty.

Another vote for order online and DM can get stuffed.

I thInk your mum is being petty and mean. I'd not ask again and just do an online shop and have delivery. You could jut get what you'd normally buy on top of the nappies form Tesco for that week in the month to make up the minimum charge for delivery.

Your mum is being totally unreasonable, of course, but just want to add in reply to all those saying do a big bulk order that your DD may not be needing nappies for that much longer anyway as she is nearly two and a half.
Certainly get a delivery, but pad out with washing powder, tins etc rather than millions of nappies you may not need...

Unless there's a lot you're not telling us, your mum is BVU. Does she play favourites with you and your B? I would think long and hard about letting her see DD alone and the consequences of that for your DD.

Why don’t you drive

Oh aren't you helpful.

DD will need nappies for at least another year, it's a completely different thread all together but she has several conditions and is nowhere near ready to potty train yet.

Wow she is really mean OP :(

I'd do this for a friend or neighbour and especially for my own child and granddaughter.. and regardless whether they drove or not! I'm sorry that your DM wont help you out with a little thing like this

I think if you end up seeing her less often that would only be as a result of her own actions - I would struggle to feel warm towards my DM if she did this. It sucks :(

Well ignore me then...

There's are some offers on Top cash back for new online customers, so check that out if you choose that option
www.topcashback.co.uk/tesco-grocery-home-shopping/

She favours your brother over you and it's her idea to see DD alone. Those two things combined would make me wary of her having DD alone.

My DM goes through phases of favouring different offspring. She's v emotionally manipulative. She doesn't have my DC alone - only with me or DP present.

All the more reason to start ordering them online if she’ll need them for a while. At least you’ll never worry about running out or have to rely on anyone else for them

Don't tell her you're doing delivery. Just never mention it again. It will drive her crazy not to know how you're managing.

If it’s too much hard work for her to throw a couple of packs of nappies in her trolley I think I would be saying no to her asked to have your DD alone every fortnight.

It is unbelievably mean and petty of her. The question " why don't you drive" is very rude, it's no ones business

Get the nappies yourself and stop the over nights!
YANBU

She’s ridiculous. She’s your mum for crying out loud! I’d do that for you if you were my neighbour, let alone my daughter.

And you both have health concerns with makes her even more of a massive arse in my book. Sorry!