About living in a house my fiance shared with his ex?

[QueenofTarts]

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I had this same problem and insisted dp sell the flat. we moved somewhere much nicer together. I would have always felt it was the home they chose together, not really mine. if there's no real financial disadvantage, I'd say choose somewhere together. Also, won't there be neighbours who know him from when he was with his wife? that could be uncomfortable for you.

I live with my dh in a house he bought with his ex girlfriend. Although they only lived together here for a year, and we've now been together for 11 years, it still doesn't feel like my house.

We've done loads of work to it, re-decorated throughout etc, but to be honest, because it's not a house I would ever have chosen, I don't think it will ever feel like mine.

You have extra layers of complexity due to the relationships of his children and the house, so I would think really, really carefully before agreeing.

Given my time again, I would have insisted that we choose a home together and sell this one, even though it made no sense financially.

I think that you need a new start in your new realtionship in a home that has been chosen by both of you.