To be REALLY pissed with dd's teacher for this???

[RoseNarene]

So I have a court order in place whereby ex has the kids from 3:30, so I always pick dd1 (in reception) up from school when it finishes at 3pm and I obvs bring dd2 with me (she is 1) and then take them both to his house.

The ex had a meeting with dd1's teacher on Friday (he refused to tell me what it was about when I asked) and has now informed me that the TEACHER has suggested that he be present at the school pick up to show that he has an active interest in her education!!

This puts me in a really tough position as we have a final hearing for the court order coming up and if I say no to this additional contact, it could look really bad on me since the suggestion came from her teacher.

Then again, he is an arrogant, controlling, manipulative, duplicitous SNAKE so this could easily be a lie!

Still, if it is true - AIBU to be pissed? It seems very inappropriate of her to be making suggestions like that! She knows the separation is full of conflict and she knows there's a court order... obviously I will talk to her about it but maaaannn!!

No it isn't easier for me for him to pick her up, because I still have to turn out to drop off dd2, as she's 1 so doesn't attend the school. I'd be more up for it if it made things easier for me, but it doesn't at all. No they're not carted around for half an hour as it takes me until about 3:30 to get to his house anyway.

I hear what you're saying: "pick your battles". But this is a man who is determined to control and manipulate me. I'm a fighter and I don't want to give in to him. I have never met someone more determined to control me and I'm not having it.

OH sorry OP I missed the bit about your 1 y/o. Tell him to naff off then

That's ok booboo!

This man is a bully and I will not encourage a bully.

I would go with a standard response of sorry D(ick) Ex that isn’t in the court order and doesn’t work for me.

I doubt that this is true. He's playing you like a gud'en. If the Teacher suggested that she'd have brought it up with you herself.

Me and Ex have been separated for a number of years now and I'm yet to hear a Teacher utter those words to me, or him in fact.