To ask for your Colic survival stories to read tonight as I rock and cry

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DD2 4.5weeks has colic, she isn't massively happy when she is ever awake but Screams for about 4 hours a night. She was a section birth but had sepsis at 2.5weeks so we have been back in hospital for 7 days.

Things I have tried - Infacol, Ranitidine, me giving up dairy, lots of winding.

HELP ME. Its hideous and my DH can't cope and actually at the momment can't help as he has singles on his face.

When did your babies colic end? What ended it?

My first child was a dream compared to this. I need guidance and hope.

TIA

How long did you give up dairy for? It can take six weeks to completely clear your system but you should see an improvement in a week or two... Though up to 50% of babies with cows milk protein allergy also have a soya allergy so if you replaced milk with soya milk you wouldn't have seen an improvement. Oat milk is a good substitute to try x

Really hope you can get to the bottom of it soon xx

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR SUPPORT.

I read the dummy advice and shouted to DH,

"Go and get a fucking newborn dummy from tesco express NOW!"

She is sucking on it and quiet. It might not last forever but the 2minutes has been worth it.

3 months... thats 2 months left. I can do this!!! I had PND with my first so can survive anything. Thank god i went back on the tablets when she was born!!

We have tired white noise. I will go and buy everything suggested tomorrow.

How different each baby is!!!!!!

Hay Giggle I have been given up for 4 days now but will continue. Thanks for the advice!

DD stopped at three months.
Driving her around in the car and walking her in her Moby wrap, where the only things that would silence the howling.
We also gave her infacol, colief and gripe water.

My youngest had terrible colic. Crying from about 4pm to midnight. The only thing that worked was wearing a wrap sling. It helped him being upright. Ended about 3 months? Good luck and hang in there!

My DS had colic, cried between 6-12pm every night. Sometimes you could hear the wind trapped and squeaking around him in. Gripe water seemed to bring him some relief. It just resolved when he was about 6 months.

All 3 of mine have been screamers. Its awful and no-one gets it. We would still be pacing with. A screaming dd1 at 4am and people were just telling us to try a good bedtime routine. Ffs.

Anyway, took us longer with dd1 than the others as I didn't know about soya. So my top tips are:
Give up dairy AND soya. I saw results in 3-4 days with all 3.
Get yourself ear defenders or head phones for while you are pacing with them. If you can't hear them scream, you stay a bit calmer, and they calm.
Pace from room to room. Listening to podcasts while doing this for the 3-4 hours needed can help.
Keep them well swaddled in a tight woven wrap sling high on your chest upright. If it works. They struggle a bit at first but persevere. Or do the over shoulder thing.
Be prepared for the screaming time. Snacks and drinks to hand etc.
Try feeding every time they calm enough to try and don't fuck around checking nappies when you know full well it's not nappies.
Get a family member to take over every time you think you are about to chuck them down the stairs. I'm not even joking.

Good luck

Dr bloody Brown bottles!

I firmly believe that colic is a symptom of something else, not a standalone issue.

Both of mine would've been labelled 'colicky' back in the day but actually DD was lactose intolerant and DS CMPI.

Is there reflux as well? What colour is the poo? Any clammy hands? Any sign of eczema or other skin condition?

I'd potentially look at cutting dairy and seeing how you go with that. Both of ours improved within 2 days of being swapped onto the right milk and were new (way, way happier) babies.

Oh I forgot one! Try cutting back on daytime stimulation and massage etc. It could be over stimulation.

I totally sympathise! My ds2 is now 7 months but he had such horrific colic that I had to wear ear plugs in the evenings. I tried everything but in the end I switched him to comfort milk and after one feed he slept for 6 hours.

I burst into tears! He was a different baby!

Massive massive hugs!
Hardest time of my life I swear to god it nearly broke me and DH!
She’s 16 weeks now but tailed off between 8-10weeks but I really don’t think she had colic. Like blondielocks says just unexplainable crying for us!
White noise was a godsend. Didn’t work every time but 90% of the time I would say.

All 4 of mine have been screamers...DS (my first) was the worst. He would scream from 4/5pm to midnight/1am EVERY night until 9 weeks and then every other night until 11/12 weeks and then it stopped....the only reason we had more was that he was such a pleasure from 3 months...

DDs 1 & 2 weren't as bad but were still a nightmare particularly at night...I remember walking around with them for hours during the night and feeds blended into 1...

Dd3 is 5 weeks old and screams a lot too and does not want to be put down...she's the only one that has taken a dummy and that certainly helps at times...

I've tried cranial osteopaths, infacol, baby massage etc..etc...and tbh I'm not sure anything helped...infacol did help them poo more though I think...

Good luck - it will improve! Hopefully for all of us with difficult babies sooner rather than later...

You are doing amazing xx

No baby advice but I would say look after you. Have someone take the baby as much as you can. And second headphones with either loud music or audio book.

You’re doing amazing, you will get through this.

Co-sleeping saved us. We followed the safe sleep guidelines and she slept well ever since.

Definitely continue diary free as it can take weeks to leave your system.

I've had 2 reflux & CMPA babies

My DS is now 9 months & from 16 days old screamed constantly until around 9 weeks when started on omperazole & me being diary free.

When he was around a month old he was awake & screamed for 8 hours solid we took him in the pushchair- he screamed, the car- he screamed that was probably my lowest point.

But it does get better, one way or the other, it really does.

The only place my DS didn't scream was the bath, think the warm water helped, worth a go OP.

Hang on in there!

DS2 is 8 weeks tomorrow and really refluxy. DS1 had terrible reflux and cried for a solid 4 months, we thought we wouldn't be unlucky enough to have the same again - but we are

I've just accepted that it's going to be bad for the first few months and have stopped trying to find a miracle cure. Just trying to get through it one day at a time.

Like Brand both my twins had colic. It was fairly traumatic.

It gradually tailed off, about 14 weeks for one and 16 weeks for the other.

. You have my sympathies. We found that baby massage helped a bit.

Get a sling and go for a walk in the madness hours. I have never been so fit as I was with Ds1s colic and reflux. Couldn’t do it with Ds2 as had ds1 in bed - lots of circuits of the garden.

Coast - yes we do co-sleep. When she goes down eventually she is fine, its just getting her there.

She's creaming now... yuk

is it over stimulation? Can you keep it dark, non-exciting as possible? My DD had awful colic that was entirely down to over stimulation. Our lives were changed by not trying to play with her or show her stuff at all, and wearing beige clothing....

Totally dark for naps, no toys no mobiles.

My baby had colic until about 5/6 weeks. The only thing that helped was Dentinox, it's just like infacol but goes in their bottle. I used Dr Brown bottles too. I had to co sleep as well I was exhausted. Single parent and also have a 5 year old so it was a tough time but once the colic disappeared everything was so much better. Hope it passes for you soon

it does get worse when DS 22months has his mad shrieking hour before bed. In a dark room with white noise on now. When do they go off to Uni???