To spend £100 on a 1st birthday cake?

[FannyTheFlamingo]

DD is almost 1 and we're having a small family get together to celebrate. I've seen a couple of beautiful cakes and would like to have one made, but it costs around £100. DP says this is ridiculous and wants me to get a cheap(er), supermarket cake. I'm so excited for her 1st birthday and just wanted a special, unique cake. I know she won't remember, but she'll see the pictures one day.

For info, we can afford it, so it's not a budget issue. The small party isn't really costing us anything as it's at home with a bit of party food and some balloons. If I had the time and the skill I'd love to be able to make my own, but it would be a disaster!

FWIW, DP thinks a family party is a silly idea and I should have a get together with mums and babies from the baby groups I go to, which I've tried to explain is a silly idea because I only talk to a couple of the mums, so it would just be awkward!

Smuggery twattery is much easier to achieve on the internet than in real life.

So true love that!!

Quite

Zombie thats a shame, did the baker not offer you a sample first? Ive made 4 wedding cakes for friends and thankfully they all knew what my cakes tasted like, a professional wedding cake baker should always be offering tasting sessions.

BertrandRussell

Sorry for the cheeky question - but i cannot thank you enough - it is the ONLY bloody thing i cannot get right (yet) and my 3 year old loves it (she even eats the split cream cheese icing) I cant wait to give her non-split CC icing. I used to whip it up in the kitchen aid so perhaps it was overbeaten. i really hate making it!

OP - enjoy your lovely cake!

Yes. I've never spent more than £40 on a birthday cake. And that was v extravagant for my dm's 50th. Usually aim for £10. No cake (other than wedding cake) is worth £100.

If you have that much money to spend then go for it but you might be pleasantly surprised at the offerings in m&s etc for a fraction of the cost.

Snake - i wouldn't spend £100 on a cake in the first place!

Good for you lethal. But people have different incomes and spending priorities. I went to the local baker who does notoriously fab cakes, explained what I wanted and paid what they told me it would cost. nowhere near £100 as it happened, but if what the OP wants costs that and she can afford it, she doesn't have to feel bad.

I think there were samples of basic Madeira cake, when we cut the cake the photo taken was with the chocolate layer, which was grim.

The donating was a suggestion. I'm one of these 'twats' who don't spend time looking for presents that I've no idea if they have or will like, so I do donate to charity & then give them the pack on how a family now has schooling for their children.

When I go to parties I'm also suggest leftovers are donated, as I'm one of them 'twats' that hate to see waste and also like to think of the needy.

I do donate to charity & then give them the pack on how a family now has schooling for their children

That is a present for you, not for them. It makes you feel good. It’s not appropriate as a gift for someone else unless they have specifically requested that you do it.

A gift should not have a passive aggressive nature, nor a shaming nature, nor a holier than thou nature, or one that makes you appear to be criticising the receiver.

It’s admirable that you donate - at the same time this should be YOUR gift not their gift.

Totally agree with that! I'd rather not receive a gift at all than trying to shame me by showing off how charitable they are.

I think given you can afford it YADNBU! But I love yummy cake and still remember a MN poster telling me (years ago) that she thought the best theme for first birthday parties was ‘Champagne.’ It was very good advice and the theme I will have for DT’s first birthday next year.