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In wanting to Defend MIL's

28 replies

Shoshable · 15/04/2007 12:59

cos i am one and love my DDIL to bits. I'm also a DIL and although we dont see my IL's very often (live 500 miles away) we get on great to, especially as she is only 10 years older than me! I married her son who is 10 years younger than me, I was already a Grandmother so made DH a grandfather at 27, and her a GGrandmother at 47, and could never her give DH his own child so she has no grandchildren from us, and she never whinged once!

OP posts:
fransmom · 15/04/2007 13:01
Smile
kimi · 15/04/2007 13:10

That the way to do it

Original poster
Shoshable · 15/04/2007 13:14

Nobody else LIKE their MIL ?

OP posts:
Katymac · 15/04/2007 13:15

DH says he likes his

Nightynight · 15/04/2007 13:21

My ex's mother is very nice!

kimi · 15/04/2007 13:25

DH1 and I have separated but we are still on very good terms.
He takes my mom (his MIL) shopping every week and stays for dinner, also she and my sister both stay at his house instead of mine when they come to visit (more room)

chirpygirl · 15/04/2007 14:40

I love my MIL, I've known her since I was 16, she's just a bit odd....!

Londonmamma · 15/04/2007 15:05

I don't dislike my MIL I just find making conversation with her a strain because we're not on the same wavelength. I do appreciate that she is an absolutely lovely grandma to my children though.

VoluptuaGoodshag · 15/04/2007 15:13

I'd like to get to know mine better but my FIL is a pain in the arse and she totally panders to him.

FluffyMummy123 · 15/04/2007 15:13

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unknownrebelbang · 15/04/2007 15:23

Mine was a good woman, who produced a lovely fella.

My own mam was a fab MIL to my DH and SIL too.

Both were Good Enough for me.

helenhismadwife · 16/04/2007 14:52

my MIL is lovely, my dh is 9 years younger than me, I had 4 children already and we now have 2 of our own. My il's welcomed me with open arms and have always been lovely to me

beckybrastraps · 16/04/2007 15:01

Mine isn't so bad. Well, OK she is but since I have had children I can see where she's coming from a bit more. She feels about my dh, her ds, the way I feel about my children. And she is a wonderful grandmother to them.

And my dh and my mum get on like a house on fire. Always have.

percypig · 16/04/2007 15:04

I love my MiL, and get on well with her. She confides in me quite a lot, and I enjoy spending time with her. She spoiled DH too much, and I wish she didn't feel the need to buy something for DS, or food for us every time she visits, but these are minor complaints.

MrsWednesday · 16/04/2007 15:07

I love mine

She's kind, helpful and never interferes, even if she disagrees with me (wasn't keen on me having a homebirth for DS2 for example, but kept her thoughts to herself). FIL and DH are very similar so we swap tips/funny stories about how to cope with them.

Katy44 · 16/04/2007 15:59

Yes, I have a good MIL as well!

tigerschick · 16/04/2007 16:03

My MIL is lovely, but very different from me. Not the sort of person you chat to on a girly level iykwim, but absolutely lovely.

lemonaid · 16/04/2007 16:07

I like mine a lot. But there are some shockers around and they do make more interesting reading...

Boco · 16/04/2007 16:12

My mil is very nice. I think that the mil / dil relationship is a really tricky one to get right - it's so easy for it to go wrong as there are often lots of insecurities on both sides - especially once children come along - it can become a power struggle for the minds of the dhs and the children - which often gets ugly!

Idreamofdaleks · 16/04/2007 16:12

everyone shoudl have a hobby

Waswondering · 16/04/2007 16:23

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kimi · 17/04/2007 19:18

Well DPs mum is not my mum in law and she is a very nice lady but I struggle like mad around her.

For starters she is DR xxx not Mrs (phds left right and centre )
She can cook far better then I
DP is 28 (toyboy ) and he has never had a filling as sweets are evil, eats anything and everything (my two want to know what it is how its cooked and where it came from before they will even thing about eating it) and thinks T.V is the root of all evil(one in every room here ) along with religion,(um all baptised here ) so god only knows what she makes of my children (they don't have fillings by the way but do eat sweets)

MY MIL (DH1s) mum is ok until she gets with his sister..... then she is an evil, backstabbing, trouble cow from hell.

Lovecat · 17/04/2007 19:49

I love my MIL, she's great!

You've got to love a woman who, on walking through her front door, says 'sit down, let me get you a drink - you want a cup of tea? Nooo, have a vodka! Put some Tia Maria in it! OH can drive you home!'

And she's never interfered in anything, she's far too busy living her life (travels loads and is a Vegas high-roller who goes 4 or 5 times a year), but that's probably not unconnected to the fact that she's not the OH's mother (died when he was 12).

I rather gather from my SIL who's married to her 'natural' son that she can be the MIL from Hell when her darling boy and precious GKs are involved....

MintChocChippyMinton · 17/04/2007 19:54

I can't find a bad word to say about my MIL, she even pours my tea first because she knows i don't like the spoon standing up in it

rantinghousewife · 17/04/2007 20:06

My mil is absolutely lovely, we've had the odd moment but I'm generally closer to her than I am my own mum. I was a single mother when I met dh and I can honestly say that she has always treated my ds just like her own. My ex MIL is also pretty fab. However, don't get me started on my sil, she's a moo bitch with the personality of cruella de ville!!

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