To ask if your scared of death?

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I was lying in bed last night and for some reason I imagined myself having a heart attack and dying. And I'm only in my early twenties
The thought of it absolutely terrified me. I don't usually think about this kind of stuff, it just came out of nowhere. I then started thinking about an article I read about the fact that your brain still works after you die so you can still hear things. I think that is what put the most fear into me

TheVanguardSix

I'm terrified of it

treaclesoda, if it helps, I am a Christian and to my knowledge the Bible if properly translated says nothing about Hell. I don't believe in Hell. The word that is translated as Hell means 'grave.' I take this to mean the two options are go to Heaven or nothingness.

Like many others, death itself does not frighten me but I fear a painful, drawn out process and leaving my children behind.

Yes.
I am
Less scared of the process unlike most of you. That’s a finite time. It’s the eternity afterwards . I can’t see a good option.
Nothingness sounds awful. Eternity in hell? No thanks. Floating around trapped between universes sounds just as bad. I don’t understand why ghosts are reassuring. Obviously I’d prefer an eternity in heaven but I doubt that can happen and actually an eternity of anything sounds terrifying. Actually I try not to think about it or I get really panicked.

I'm not afraid of death or being dead, I am afraid of a painful death.
I've had several close shaves. they tend to change your perspective of dying.

Not existing after you die is the same as not existing before you were born. And I never worried about the later so ...

Have my Dignitas fund ready, shame I cant use it in this country but maybe we will be more enlightened in the future. My house will go to my DC and give them a real boost.

Life can be hard and sometimes I look forward to the struggle being over. Death has many attractions. Its life that scary.

Nothingness sounds awful

I don’t think you understand how nothingness works.

Think of it this way. Without rain, we couldn’t appreciate a sunny day. Without clouds, we couldn’t appreciate blue sky. Without illness, we wouldn’t appreciate health. And so on.

Life is finite. That’s what gives it meaning.

I’m not scared of it. I figure that once my time comes I just have to accept it. I hope that during my life I will have lived and loved and done as much as I can for those around me, living my life with love and kindness and hopefully that will be my legacy.

Mm, I definitely do not want to add fuel to the scary fire, but one of the symptoms of cancer can be a “feeling of doom.”

Maybe get a complete physical/checkup with your physician?

You’ll most likely get a clean bill of health and maybe feel better!

It the non existence that fascinates me. My dad died a month ago, and it's stopped me in my tracks that you just cease to be.

Julie Before you were born or conceived, you hadn't yet existed, so it wouldn't worry you. Now you do, and know what it is to exist, so losing that be comes an issue.

I'm not scared of death as such but I do sometimes worry about dying painfully. I did worry about all kinds of weird and way in the future stuff when my eldest was born though, I think it's a hormonal thing.

Not of my own death but of those I love absolutely.

I'm not scared, but I do find it sad and very overwhelming that one day I just won't be here anymore. I love life. It is hard to get your head around that one day you won't see another evening draw in, or listen to the birds or hold your loved ones hand.

The other night I was snuggled up on the sofa with DH holding his hand and I thought one day he and I will be gone and this will be over. It made me sad but appreciative of the time we have.

I’m not scared of dying, particularly. I’m terrified of developing some sort of illness where I’m alive but no longer me/capable of looking after myself/actually living e.g. dementia, debilitating stroke etc. It’s my biggest fear.

Not existing after you die is the same as not existing before you were born

This is exactly what I think death is. I find that preferable to the thought of an afterlife.

Not death, but the illness that might lead to my death. I'm fearful of a long, drawn out illness that changes my appearance and that's the memory my family would be left with.

I only became scared of death once I had children.

There are worse things than death. Being locked in your body and unable to control it or communicate but aware of everything. Horrific pain that can't be controlled.
Being dead is bliss in comparison. I'm more worried about not being around for my husband and children. Or if anything happened to them, I'd go out of my mind.
I'm not religious but do believe that we are part of something bigger and NOT man made.
None of us existed a hundred years ago, so why be scared of not existing?

There seems to be a mixture on here of those who find idea if ceasing to exist terrifying and those that can’t see the big deal or even would embrace it.
I realise that it’s the same as before I was born and even thinking about that gives me palpitations.
So how do those of us who hate the idea come to terms with it? I don’t think saying it’s like before life helps. I am here now. I like being here. I like life. I have loved ones. I look at my kids and can’t come to terms with their non existance.

Eternity is an awfully long time.

Dying, maybe depending on the circumstances. Death, no.

The thought of losing the people I love frightens me way more than ceasing to exist myself.

Not existing after you die is the same as not existing before you were born
I'd say it's very different. I hadn't become a person then. Now I am a person I have one chance to experience life, and when it's over that's it. How could that one life ending not be the most frightening thought possible to me? It's the end of my very existence. That's it, gone, bye bye.

From a selfish point of view, I quite like the idea of going with dementia, IF I could fade gently as one grandma did. By the time she died her self had faded out long ago. It was quite gentle on us as her family too. (Also she was over 100 with lots of descendants visiting her, that would be nice too.)