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AIBU?

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AIBU mumsnet 100 years ago

57 replies

Dippydippydora · 03/11/2017 12:34

What would women be writing on here 100 years ago? What would have been their AIBU?
"I spend all morning whitening the step and my fucker of a DH comes back from the mine and treads coal dust all over it. AIBU to stop doing it, what would the neighbours think of me"
Or
"I am fed up of doing the washing on a Monday especially when the weather is bad. AIBU to do it on a Wednesday instead"

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MrsScareface2 · 03/11/2017 12:37

I'm pregnant...AGAIN number 13 this will be.... 'd'h spends his wage packet down the pack horse every friday. I seriously can't cope with the kids I have

No judging please but aibu to think I just can't have this baby Sad oh but hold on I have no safe sterile way to choose to end this pregnancy so I guess it's baby #13 or be butchered by Mrs Greeves down the road Gin

brasty · 03/11/2017 12:37

AIBU in wanting women to have the vote?

TorNayDoh · 03/11/2017 12:39

100 years ago in the UK, most of the men would be off fighting World War I, so it would be more "I accidentally got given double rations at the shop today, AIBU to keep it?". "How do I make 12 ounces of bacon last all week and feel a family of four?" "AIBU to serve MIL acorn coffee?"

brasty · 03/11/2017 12:40

DH and I have had a disabled child (not language that would have been used). GP keeps saying we should put our child in an institution, and it would be better for everyone. AIBU in refusing to do this? Everyone keeps saying I am.

Dippydippydora · 03/11/2017 12:41

Yes it would be of course WW1
On a serous note being a working class women must have been bloody hard work you had the men off to war and all the work on top

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brasty · 03/11/2017 12:41

My DH is home on leave. AIBU to send my children to my mums so I can look after my DH properly?

Dippydippydora · 03/11/2017 12:41

Also no welfare state, no NHS how did they bloody do it?

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brasty · 03/11/2017 12:41

My 60 year old Uncle is a bit gay (had a different meaning then). AIBU to think this is harmless?

Dippydippydora · 03/11/2017 12:42

Brasty that must have been heartbreaking. It was put your kid in the institution or cope yourselves and receive no help whatsoever

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brasty · 03/11/2017 12:42

I actually have a problem page book from the 20s, It is fairly sensible. But full of more serious problems than is usual in AIBU MN.

brasty · 03/11/2017 12:45

Dippy Yes very difficult. No DLA or practical help at all. And before the NHS, no help for any medical problems. Life was much harder for some people in the past.

Lweji · 03/11/2017 12:45

AIBU to want this fucking WW to end?

Maudlinmaud · 03/11/2017 12:46

Having looked back at our family household return census circa 1901 and 1911 I probably would have been able to read mumsnet but not write a post.

VanillaSugar · 03/11/2017 12:47

My DD is nearly 20 and wastes her life campaigning for votes for women. AIBU to demand that she marries our nice local vicar (he's 50 years old) otherwise we'll cut her off without a penny?

deckoff · 03/11/2017 12:48

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 03/11/2017 12:48

I am working in a munitions factory. It's great! I have my own money and company during the day. My mum looks after the kids for me. AIBU to think how great it would be to keep the job when the men come home at the end of the war? Obviously IABU because the men will need jobs as they are the breadwinners.

Maudlinmaud · 03/11/2017 12:50

My mother won't let me shorten my skirts so my ankle is showing. Aibu or does she need to move with the times.

Archfarchnad · 03/11/2017 12:53

Based on our real family history from the early 20th Century:

My married DD died tragically a few weeks ago when she drowned in the water butt outside their house. Her 8yo DD found her. My feckless son-in-law has now buggered off and left four kids of 10 and under in the house by themselves. I can't take them on - I'm already bringing up DD's illegitimate son as my own and the rest of my house is filled with lodgers. The kids have now been taken to the workhouse: AIBU to leave them there until they're 14 and go out to work down the mines? I went into service myself at that age. At least they'll get fed there.

0ccamsRazor · 03/11/2017 12:53

Aibu to send my youngest down ta mine with the rest of his siblings, he is 5 and desparatly wants to join them and their father. I am sure that he will be fine sitting in the dark dank shaft making sure that the presure doors are closed behind the miners. He is rather on the small side and has to wear calipers for his rickets. Do you think that he will be ok?

DunkMeInTomatoSoup · 03/11/2017 12:57

If an obvious disability, the chances are the midwife would have discretely smothered it at birth and told you it was stillborn.

wanderings · 03/11/2017 12:57

AIBU to think that children running around blindfolded is dangerous? They all keep wanting to play blind man's buff in the nursery, should I instruct Nanny to take a slipper to them if she catches them playing this game?

Maudlinmaud · 03/11/2017 13:02

Dunk that is bloody horrible. I was reading something a while ago about the superstitions in Ireland around fairies. Children with disabilities where often thought of as changelings.

Lethaldrizzle · 03/11/2017 13:04

Nearly got knocked off my bike today by one of those new fangled automobiles! God the people who drive them are soooo entitled!

Bucketsandspoons · 03/11/2017 13:11

The scullery maid has actually come upstairs and whined to me that the cook hit her and told her that she's done a rubbish job on the pots. Obviously NBU to take cook's side but WIBU to give the wretched girl one more chance instead of sending her packing? I know, I know, she's an entitled little madam and will probably be nothing but trouble (upstairs I tell you! on the carpets!!) but staff so difficult to find with this war.

TheWhyteRoseShallRiseAgain · 03/11/2017 13:18

AIBU to hate my MIL? She has got into debt for the 3rd time and expects DH to rescue her again because she has raised him alone. (If she hadn't entertained a married man but that is for another thread) When he refused this time for the sake of our DCs and myself she agreed to "give" him the farm. That was a joke it's on condition of full use of the parlour and sitting room, her meals provided,her bedroom kept to the standard she is accustomed and use of the horse and buggy every Thursday for the whole of the afternoon. Surely at 70 she cannot live much longer?

Based on family papers we found