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SuzukiLi · 02/11/2017 19:16

I'm burning out quite quickly and know something had to give but don't know what!
I'm at uni full time which is an hours drive each way, so I leave my house at half 7 and don't get home till half 6.
I'm a single parent, my DD's dad isn't involved so it's me and her 24/7 with no break.
I manage to fit an hour in the gym after I finish uni and before I drive home, then I get home, tidy up and make some dinner, put DD to bed and finally sit down to do some study. By this point it's half 8 and I can barely keep my eyes open. I'm also trying to maintain a relationship and I have Bi Polar....
I took 3 days off from uni this week just so I could relax and try and catch up with myself but now I've fallen behind and I'm so bloody stressed!!! I don't even know the point if this really... don't k kW if there's anything obvious that u can change that I'm not seeing.

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anothermalteserplease · 03/11/2017 23:04

Is there not a Uni closer to home? Or a Uni nursery?
Alternatively is there anyone who could help with childcare a few times a week? They could pick up dd from nursery and you stay late at Uni to study. Then the other nights you go home as early as you can.

R2G · 04/11/2017 11:50

I think you've got this. All this no life for your DD she's alright she's having a great time in nursery. I personally think though that she'd be better with a childminder who can drop her home to you so you don't have the stress at the end of the day of getting there on time. Plus then you may be able to get the train.
Meals - so it's just you not DD. Great. You need to do this in advance on a Sunday. Two trays of roast veg, a cooked chicken and a stew in the slow cooker, plus salmon and frozen rice for later in the week. That's your dinners and lunches sorted.
When you finish at 3 you should do your studying then - nothing to heavy just consolidating your notes etc. On your longer days do a HIIT class at lunch.
At the weekends you should be resting with DD, and make sure you get out for a little walk each day to combat your mental health, or a swim. Convenient food at the weekends would be wraps and sandwiches and soups, Study at the weekends might best be fitted in on a Saturday after tea while DD watches a movie

SuzukiLi · 04/11/2017 18:48

Money isn't a problem, and she loves her nursery. I'm don't want her to go to the uni nursery as I'd rather spend and extra 2 hours at nursery playing than 2 hours in the car travelling. Her nursery is also attached to the school she will be going to so she's now making friends.

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