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AIBU to stop my Dsis getting an interview?

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Ahhh1234 · 01/11/2017 13:21

So I feel awful to the point I could cry! My sister has applied to my work place for a role that would be in my department and she would be sitting a few seats away.

HR called and asked if I minded her being interview for the position. I said I minded. The reasons being:

  1. In every job she's had in the past 4/5 years she's been fired due to her calling in sick, tensions in her teams etc
  2. She's very confrontational and doesn't like authority.
  3. She doesn't make friends easily
  4. If there was a disagreement between her and someone I don't want it to reflect badly on me.
  5. I love where I work and get on with everyone so I don't want to rock the boat.

So AIBU to say no to her getting an interview?

OP posts:
BenLui · 02/11/2017 19:55

Fifth it’s not just current employees either. In most companies when the shortlist of prospective CVs comes in the hiring manager might give a quick call to trusted friends and former colleagues who have worked in the companies listed on your CV.

That’s why I said in an earlier post that is really, really important to build a great reputation everywhere you work. A quick check of LinkedIn can be very revealing.

It also means it’s harder to tell fibs on your CV (should you be foolish enough to do so) because you’ll be found out.

It’s not really any different to taking up references, it just happens before rather than after the interview.

Remember it’s not just about preventing people getting a job.

If someone you’ve worked with before says “Fifth is quite a quiet person but she’s absolutely fantastic at her job and was a fantastic addition to the team” that might help overcome a slightly nervous interview or help your CV stand out from the pack.

DamsonGin · 04/11/2017 07:28

How was the ball op?

permatiredmum · 04/11/2017 19:54

You need to be very careful about requesting or giving 'informal references'.breach of confidentiality, slander, data protection

CoyoteCafe · 04/11/2017 20:08

I suspect that the reason the HR office called rather than emailed was so there wouldn't be a paper trail proving that this conversation happened.

BabyImaFirework · 05/11/2017 21:05

Have NCed for this
re 'informal references' Please do not do this.You do not know what you are dealing with.
Long story short .I was raped by a director of my company who was also my line manager, at a boozy weekend conference , being left with severe bruising and what turned out to be a fractured wrist. .I left the job because I was terrified. Several years later this man was approached for a back door reference by an employer .This tipped him off as to where I was now working he tracked me down and threatened and tried to blackmail me.

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