FUSSY CHILD AND GIVING HIM A ROAST DINNER..

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We have DC friend over tonight and we are all having chicken pie, roast potatoes, peas, carrots and Yorkshire pudding with gravy,

The friend is incredibly fussy ( and I understand it's very difficult as my DC is fussy) however his mum has told me to give him a roast dinner just like everyone else to try and encourage him to try something.

How would you serve the meal with as little stress as possible? One potato? Or a small bit of potato? One carrot? One pea?? How about the pie?!

The friend apparently is very unlucky to try any of it but mum still wants me to serve it to him in a hope he will try!

I don't really want to overwhelm him with a large plate of food but It would be nice to say to his mum when he picks up that he has had something!

Sorry for this post I am such a worrier!

Any tips on how to support a child ( who isn't yours) who is incredibly fussy?

Be very happy to see him. Show him the food before dinner, in the kitchen.

Then tell him what his mother told you and ASK HIM what he wants, to plate up his own food.

Most dc enjoy control. Give it to him.

People who don't have a fussy eater always think they have the answers! I have a child who just wouldn't eat if they didn't like the food.
I hope the meal went well. Small portions-without gravy (unless they want it) or let them choose.

If the kid is hungry it will eat something. Parents make kids fussy by pandering to them. If kids are offered all the foods the rest of family are having and nothing else consistently they will learn to eat it and enjoy it.

If the kid is hungry it will eat something. Parents make kids fussy by pandering to them. If kids are offered all the foods the rest of family are having and nothing else consistently they will learn to eat it and enjoy it.

I used to think that. Now I know it's a load of bollocks

Kids don't starve themselves. If they are hungry they do eat eventually and then become less fussy. By offering various alternatives at every mealtime you are effectively rewarding pickiness.

I'd serve him an appropriate sized meal. Sometimes kids eat in other folks' homes foid that they wouldn't eat at home especially when seeing other children eat. If he decided not to eat then just tell him okay but he will be hungry.

Some do actually @caringcarer. My DS became severely underweight because he wouldn't eat because I 'wouldn't reward pickiness'.

Shitheads like you made me feel like I had to do that and it took a GP to tell me to give him whatever he would eat so that he would gain weight.

Caringcarer are you seriously suggesting that forcing a child to eat food they don’t want or starving them is an effective method of providing children a healthy relationship with food? It’s not. Where did you get your advice? The 50’s?

I can’t believe these posters going on about carbs! They should shut the hell up! Seriously she wasn’t asking for your opinion on her choice of foods just how to serve them to a fussy eater! Honestly 🙄
I have to say you sound very kind going to this much trouble for this little boy 😊

Why does everyone feel the need to stick their nose into business that is not there own and not being asked for, how sad! Get a life and stop trying to preach to everyone else, why do you feel the need??

The fussy one here is you, not the children. Stop worrying.

I would put it all in the middle of the table and let them help themselves

Yes. I'm 58 not a child and if you plunked your plate of roast dinner in front of me I wouldn't eat it.

Lass, what does your comment add to the conversation? The OP IS talking about a situation with a fussy eater, autistic CHILD. So what if you would not eat the plate put in front of you (and if you really would not, you really need to work on your understanding of etiquette when a guest at another person's home).

Put everything in the middle.

Never worry if a child doesn't eat. They will when they are hungry.

I know how hard it is, but the last thing the world needs is yet more anti-social fussy eaters.

Harsh I know.....

Small amount of everything and then let him get on with it. He will survive not eating anything, and if he's really hungry then he will try. Please do not beat yourself up over this meal - you are offering vegetables and a lean meat, and ok if it is under a pie crust it won't kill the family. Too much pressure about nutrition - it's enough to give people eating disorders. A relaxed meal time with some chat and laughing might be hard to achieve at times but it will make everything go down better - good luck!

If posters cant be bothered to read the thread at least read OPs posts, she has had the meal already.

It is not fussy to find what the OP was proposing making this child eat completely unappealing.

If I were faced with a plate of chicken pie , gravy and yorkshire pudding I wouldn't force it down just to be polite. If I were given an empty plate there are a few items I would pick but the main item of chicken pie- no.

As for etiquette- it would hardly be etiqutte to assume you can serve dead bird pie and gravy to a vegetarian and expect them to eat it. I'm not sure why OP should assume this child will want to eat her roast dinner.

I have a very fussy eater, when he stays with friends he often eats things he would never touch at home. Just put a little of each on his plate you might be surprised.

As for the carb police - I am always amazed there are so many people out there who are so perfect and able to produce completely perfect balanced meals every day that they feel able to criticise other people’s meals.

My dd eats most things but she doesn't like them mixed together and she doesn't eat pie...or gravy! I think the option to serve yourself is probably the best one.

I don’t know why people bother posting when they seem incapable of reading.

It's actually hilarious having a child who will happily eat broccoli and sprouts but refuses to eat pies and sausage rolls. Her diet is so healthy that you feel crazy trying to force her to eat foods that aren't that good for you anyway. My favourite was when I'd taken her to a pizza restaurant and she only wanted free salad. I shouted at her "you can't have any more salad until you've eaten your pizza". Cue strange looks from most of the restaurant.

Lass-what would you have served then?

Let's assume @LassWiTheDelicateAir that the mother might have mentioned if the
Child was vegetarian when she was mentioning how incredibly fussy he is.

Ds' friend came calling Sunday not long before we had our lamb roast. We had lamb, lamb crispies, roast and boiled pots, yorkie puds, carrots, peas, swede, roughly chopped mixed cauli and broccoli and roasted parsnips. I offered him some, he said yes. I gave him a little bit of everything and just told him to eat what he liked and leave the rest.

Kids don't starve themselves. If they are hungry they do eat eventually and then become less fussy. By offering various alternatives at every mealtime you are effectively rewarding pickiness

Complete bollocks. The numerous paediatricians and child nutritionists i have seen tell me otherwise. They say offer what they like, don't make it an issue and children do starve themselves and have to be hospitalised. I wish people would stop peddling this shite.