FUSSY CHILD AND GIVING HIM A ROAST DINNER..

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We have DC friend over tonight and we are all having chicken pie, roast potatoes, peas, carrots and Yorkshire pudding with gravy,

The friend is incredibly fussy ( and I understand it's very difficult as my DC is fussy) however his mum has told me to give him a roast dinner just like everyone else to try and encourage him to try something.

How would you serve the meal with as little stress as possible? One potato? Or a small bit of potato? One carrot? One pea?? How about the pie?!

The friend apparently is very unlucky to try any of it but mum still wants me to serve it to him in a hope he will try!

I don't really want to overwhelm him with a large plate of food but It would be nice to say to his mum when he picks up that he has had something!

Sorry for this post I am such a worrier!

Any tips on how to support a child ( who isn't yours) who is incredibly fussy?

My very fussy child would definitely not serve herself anything if there was nothing she knew she liked. She would happily eat nothing. The best way for her would be a tiny bit of everything on her plate, none of it touching and definitely no gravy.

I’ll ave it if he’s not fussed! Sounds fab. And I’m hungry. Just give him little bits of each component. Gravy separate. Play dates are rarely about the food.

I'd let him choose what goes on his plate, or serve himself. If he doesn't want any just find something he likes if it's only ice cream. He's visiting-not the time to make an issue out of food.

OP fellow Autism parent here meal sounds great 👍🏻- food in middle - give him choice and keep seperate on plate as others have said - totally get the ‘fussy’ eater thing from my boy who only ate solid food from when he was 4 years old.

I’ve had fussy kids and/ or small eaters round and feed them the same as DD (who is unfussy and has a big appetite)

If they don’t eat it then 🤷‍♀️

I WOULD ASK IF IT WAS PIE OR ROAST, BUT I AM FAR MORE OUTRAGED BY THE CAPSLOCK TITLE .

I make chicken pie from the remains of yesterday's roast chicken. Therefore by definition it is a roast. Besides which the OP was after advice on the child's eating not her use of grammar.

As for "No child or adult needs pastry, potato, and batter all in one meal. Op is having a tough time and that's one thing, but to shame everyone that's gone 'hell that's a load of carbs' as if a nutritionist wouldn't say the same is just offensive." no child or adult needs an awful lot of things. I bet you don't need that glass of wine you'll probably have tonight or at the weekend, bet you'll still drink it though eh? Mmm carbs I love them......

I do so love a fuck load of carbs

When I first started going out with my husband, he cooked me a meal- arancini followed by lasagne with roast potatoes (wtf?) and garlic bread. Quatro-carbing. That's when I knew he was a keeper.

My mother is definitely of the opinion that you only have yorkshires with roast beef - so when I first heard of people having them with other meals, I was not at all sure about it.

But I am a convert - especially since the advent of good, frozen yorkshires (for some reason, I am completely incapable of making a big Yorkshire, or individual ones, or even a toad in the hole that rises x they are tasty but flat).

On one occasion, when everyone else was out, and I couldn’t be bothered to cook something just for me, I had a scavenge round the freezer, and had cod fish cakes and yorkshires for my dinner. Utterly reprehensible, nutritionally speaking, but quick, easy and delicious.

Mine were fussy but there was always something in a roast that they would enjoy. Like others have said. Let the child choose. I've always taken visiting children into the kitchen before dishing up and let them look without the glare of everyone at the table. let them put things on a plate with you in the kitchen.

Yorkshire pudding make a great breakfast. Fill the centre with scrambled eggs and either chopped bacon or sausage. Even better would be to fill it with sausage gravy.

For God's sake! Kids adapt to their environment. If everyone else tucks in, chances are, he will too. If not, so be it. When I was a child, (born 55) no-one forced you to eat what was on the table but there was nothing else. Go figure.

Yep I am a convert to the frozen Yorkshire as well even though I can make bloody decent ones myself but why on earth bother? .

A Wigan roast? They are renowned for their love of pies in Wigan.

Yy it sounds like a real thing.

I apply what I call the puff pastry analogy to them, based on the fact that I buy puff pastry (although I do make my own shortcrust) but my view is, if God had wanted me to make my own puff pastry he wouldn't have made it available for 99P in the supermarket. now anything that is far easier to throw in the oven than make and doesn't taste that different has the puff pastry analogy applied, and that includes frozen Yorkshire puddings.

What’s the secret @LoverOfCake? I put extra egg in the batter, let it rest before using it, and get the fat and dish as hot as I can, but no joy.

Mind you - I am on a diet at the moment, so there won’t be many yorkshires for me, for the foreseeable future.

Aunt Bessies frozenYorkshire pudding batters are brilliant.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius well, and I may be lynched by the anti mlm brigade for this, I have a stoneware muffin pan which is brilliant for cooking yorkshires. I don't know how or why but it just is. So I swear by it - bought it through a friend who did pampered chef but I imagine it's possible to get similar elsewhere.

Not really Maddie, a pie filling is usually wet/in a sauce, whereas the meat on a roast is dry - which is why i may sometimes, if the tide is high and theres a blue moon, get ds1 to eat some dry roast meat. There'd be no chance with a wet pie!

bit of a different situation but when I've had young nephews or nieces over, or fussier friends' kids, I've let them help me choose what to cook and then help serve. It won't suddenly get them eating everything but I pretend no prior knowledge of their likes and dislikes and let them dish up (with help) for everyone. They seem to like the grown up job and it has always got them eating a little more than at home. It's different now I have my own kids, he eats everything and any fussy friends are allowed to fill up on bread if they don't like it!

OP - my autistic kid is pretty much living on bloody S&V crisps at the moment too (it’s just a phase, it’s just a phase, it’s just a phase..) - your post made me feel less alone for a moment. Thanks x

My son was incredibly fussy and when he went to friends house's they would always put a small amount of everything on and say could he please try everything and what he liked he could have more of. It worked well as he was not overwhelmed by too much food he didn't like. Best advise I can give is not to fuss and be as chilled as possible to put him at ease

It’s funny when laymen’s think they’re professionals when it comes to nutrition and use their peanut sized amount of knowledge to shit all over people. OP your meal is perfect: 2 portions of vegetables, protein from white meat, carbohydrates & what is overall a calorie rich balanced meal it absolutely fulfills the needs of children.
Grannysmith... carbs are not the enemy, stop blasting people on things you *think you know.

Thank you, @LoverOfCake!