Rehoming dog- the welfare centre surely being U

[Givemeallthechocolate]

This is my second AIbu of the day.... had a bit of thinking time.

I saw a dog, who was listed as being whole, he had a fear of loud noises, but quite young at 9 months.

Nothing I can't deal with, so happily I made enquiries into making him mine.

Home check done, all ok.

The information about him was very scarce.
We did hear that there was something about his ear- we gathered an ear infection and all would be ok by the time we collected him.

The day came to meet him, and we were told the dog was cryptorchid and that they would reimburse part of the costs of his operation. They couldn't confirm how much. And we needed a vet appointment for his ears.

Its ok, no problem.

when we're home his behaviour isn't what we expected (I worked for 18 months boarding dogs in our home, so I'm not exactly inexperienced with settling in dogs)
He's ripped up our kitchen floor, broke out of his crate, he's started to go to the toilet on DDs carpet when we go on the school run despite having access to outdoors (usually a walk) just before we leave.

There are a lot of problems. I speak with the place that he came from a few times.

First few times just as discussion about how he's settling in. I'm ashamed to say the 3rd time I spoke with them i was on the verge of telling them that he could no longer live here. I'm so ashamed at that.

They came back to me and told me that they didn't see it, but it was on their notes that he suffered with anxiety.

At that moment I felt like, actually I couldn't send him back there, he's not well, and they put him with us not explaining his issues, and all I could think of was, many people would have taken him not knowing and with the behaviour would have sent him back because they are unable to deal with this.

I feel like they let him down because this would have been just another home in the long list, therefore making his issues worse. He was 9 months, it's unclear whether this is his 3rd or 4th home.

He's now 10 months old, and we think he's finally getting some meat on his bones. We wanted to see the post they put up of him before we got him, to compare then and now, they've deleted every shred of information about him. The post, the pictures, as if he's never been one of theirs.

Am I expecting too much or have they failed him? I feel really upset about this.

I applaud the work that rescues and volunteers do. At the same time i have also experienced rescue centres being less than truthful about the history of animals in order to rehome them. The sad fact is they are horribly overstretched and almost no one will offer to rehome an animal advertised as hard work. It's not right but i can see why it happens.

Aaawwww what a cute boy I have always had rescues and remember well my beautiful 10 year old staffy who is the sweetest dog ever how she used to jump on the work surfaces and eat whatever was there, run out the front door and pick fights with my older boy staffy if he so much as looked at her toys.
I have a parrot with a deformed leg and when we bought her the previous owner wrote a receipt saying ‘bought as seen’ I have a widowed love bird an old cat 16 years and a Siamese cat who the previous owner advertised him as a Bengal and told us ‘he hates me’ when questioned further she said he tries to grab my feet as I walk down the stairs ( he was a kitten) she was about 50 not short sighted nor frail. We also have a small terrier who lived on the cruel streets of Serbia and was a nervous wreck but thankfully our gentle staffy restored his faith in the human race, each one of our pets were unwanted,broken and unloved but when I wake up in the morning and see two dogs and two cats curled up together at the bottom of the bed my heart melts ( they sneak in during the night). You do get what we call the ‘honeymoon period’ with a rescue pet and troublesome behaviour can sometime only manifest itself once they get their lil paws under the table and finally feel ‘safe’ At Pets at home they do many anti anxiety pills,potions and plug ins including rescue remedy and serena which works well and of course you could leave a radio on and a worn old t shirt in his bed when you go out. Do not over fuss him when you leave the house and the same for when you come back home and maybe even consider crate training him to avoid unwanted chewing. To minimise anxiety get your keys,handbag etc..and ‘go out’ for about 10 minutes without fuss or eye contact, then come in, wait 10 minutes and then repeat, do this a few times to desensitise him to you going out and after a short while it will work, lots of fuss when he does well and a gentle water spray on the rump for unwanted behaviour. Good luck you’ll find with training and treats you’ll have the best dog ever!

I lost my boxer girl recently. She came from a specialist boxer rescue (though they do handle other breeds) and they are completely up front about behaviour. He’s lovely

My puppy only had one testical descended when we bought him at 8 weeks old .
We were told by our vet to wait till he was 1 year old and see if it dropped , which it did when he was about 9 months old .

I called him oneball and it's still his name now 😄

Which rescue did you get him from?