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To have given the woman my parking ticket?

153 replies

Whereareyougoingmouse · 28/10/2017 17:43

I went to a car park today and put 4 hours on the car. we only ended up staying 45 mins as my DD had a major melt down which couldn't be tamed so we decided to head home.

As I was exiting the car park I saw a young mother with a small baby rifling through her purse stood at the ticket machine. I drove up to her and asked if she would like my ticket as it still had 3 hours 15 mins left on it and shame to go to waste. As I was saying this an elderly lady walked past and shouted "That's illegal". I said pardon and she said "You stupid cow what you are doing is illegal" and walked off. The young mother shouted after saying how rude she was but the woman carried on walking laughing and shaking her head.

I was genuinely shocked by this. I've never heard it's illegal to give someone your ticket and I've been given countless tickets in my 15 years of driving. I looked at the board and it said nothing about it.

WIBU to offer the lady my ticket?

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limitedperiodonly · 29/10/2017 19:06

I'd do this if I had a car any more but I read something recently that made me think it could be justified sometimes. It was about public loos. I can't remember where it was but it was a seaside or similar touristy place where people where holding the doors open for the next person in the queue to save them 50p or whatever. The council took no money and can't afford to run them any more so that facility is lost.

Even so I still wouldn't shut the door on someone. You'd look mean and mad, even if you did like Staples and kewcumber and bored them to death with a lecture on the effects of austerity on vital services.

CoolCarrie · 29/10/2017 19:07

YADNBU! She was annoyed you didn't give it to her! Kindness outweighs any daftness, and you were paying it forward

Kewcumber · 29/10/2017 19:11

limitedperiodonly I think staples and I should get a room as we are distracting everyone else.

Though I am reeeeesonably close to Staples Corner so you might be in luck.

limitedperiodonly · 29/10/2017 19:12

I also used to give my one day travel card away when I had finished with it but Oyster Cards have put paid to that.

My mum used to love to do that. She'd come to visit me on a Saturday morning and get home again at about 8pm. She lived in zone 4 and I live in zone 1 so that was an expensive travel card. She'd give them to anyone but what she liked best was giving it to a young girl who was all dressed up for a night out Smile

BuzzKillington · 29/10/2017 19:12

When our car park machines issued tickets, I used to do this regularly as did everyone else.

People on MN seem to meet very aggressive people Hmm

StealthPolarBear · 29/10/2017 19:13

To those saying you only pay for that one session if parking, if you nipped home and then went back in again within the timescale on the ticket would you really buy a new one?

Kewcumber · 29/10/2017 19:13

I have actually been known to say to people when arguing about whether the shop is compelled to sell them something which has been priced incorrectly..."I think you'll find the price is just an invitation to treat and does not create a contract as there is no offer and acceptance at that point"

I'm particularly popular at parties.

WorraLiberty · 29/10/2017 19:16

God we haven't had one of these threads for so long, I had to check it wasn't a zombie.

In all my 48 years I have never known any member of the public to comment or care about people sharing parking tickets.

limitedperiodonly · 29/10/2017 19:19

Can I come too kewcumber? Some places put a child bed in the room at no extra cost

Italiangreyhound · 29/10/2017 19:24

If you are issued with a fine because you have used someone else's ticket, do you still need to pay that fine? Or can you throw the fine away and say you don't think it is illegal so therefore no issue? If the authority running the car park can come after you (or rather not you, who gave your ticket but the person who received it) does it really matter if it is strictly speaking illegal.

Yes, it's the person who took your ticket and didn't pay for their own who has broken the rules, but once you know that rule, isn't passing on your ticket actually mean rather than nice? Unless you say 'Take my ticket but you may get finned."

SweetCrustPastry · 29/10/2017 19:25

She must have been having an especially bad day mustn't she?
I always really appreciate it when someone gives me a ticket in a car park and try to pass it on when I can. Our local council has put machines that ask for a reg number now - probably because people used to just leave their tickets stuck to the machine if they had a decent amount of time left and there was no-one to hand it on to. To my delight you had to pay with a card in the new machines and there was never any signal to actually take the card payment Grin. Seemed like natural justice.
It's a lovely thing to do. Please keep doing it. Flowers

jayne1976 · 29/10/2017 19:29

Nutter!
Think it is illegal though, know someone who got a parking ticket in a car park with a camera for using a ticket when they saw someone passing it on as the rules said non-transferable!

PourMeABrose · 29/10/2017 19:29

I did a stint working in a retirement village and the one thing it taught me was that old people love to be angry. Busy bodying complainers the lorra them. My mother's getting on a bit and I can see it starting in her!

limitedperiodonly · 29/10/2017 19:32

I have actually been known to say to people when arguing about whether the shop is compelled to sell them something which has been priced incorrectly ."I think you'll find the price is just an invitation to treat and does not create a contract as there is no offer and acceptance at that point"

Good one kewcumber

I was working at a magazine and someone called to say she thought there was a mistake with the closing date for a competition - the magazine had just come out and it was the next day.

I said I'd check and call her back - it's not my job but I can be a little ray of sunshine sometimes Wink. I checked with the relevant department and they told me they'd mucked the date up and to tell the woman she could send it in.

I phoned back thinking she'd be pleased. She said she'd taken legal advice - like fuck - and she'd been told we had to stand by what we'd printed and demanded compensation. I said we did stand by what we'd printed in which case she'd better get her skates on before she missed the last post.

Who are these people who, when you're trying to be happy and helpful, try to piss you off?

JanesMom · 29/10/2017 19:36

Of course it isn't illegal.

It may technically be a breach of the terms and conditions of the parking contract but (I) that doesn't render something illegal and (II) who cares, it was a nice thing to do.

CertainHalfDesertedStreets · 29/10/2017 19:39

we could tut loudly stating "That is a civil offence, and as such you'll have to bring a private prosecution", or "Have a care for the Sale of Goods Act!". I like to go round parks and gardens referring people for a judicial review.

Grin Is there still 'comment of the week'?

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 29/10/2017 20:42

I don't think the council would fine the recipient of the ticket, as they have a valid ticket.

Incorrect. They can and do fine people who accept and use tickets they haven't paid for.

Purplealienpuke · 29/10/2017 20:42

My aunt was horrified to get a fine in a pay and display car park after she was given a ticket with time left on it. It is against regulations apparently.
Bit having said that the woman in question could definitely have been nicer about it!!

Ontheboardwalk · 29/10/2017 21:01

Lots of anti social behaviour in my local car park with people approaching your car at night asking for your parking ticking with time left to sell it on to people coming into the car park.

Was quite intimidating someone following you back to your car in the dark.

Wasn't fair on the people buying the tickets either as they would have ended up with a fine. Yes my ticket purchased at 9am was valid for 12 hours but if they came in for event parking after 5 pm it was a different rate and ticket. They had to drive past the parking hut and attendant who spotted them all.

I used to tell them I'd paid online. Was really pleased when they changed it so you had to enter your licence plate. Felt much safer.

cheval · 29/10/2017 21:46

Round here they’ve stopped all this altruism. All has to be done via a phone to some site which of course never works. And brings on utter rage. I remember when parking was mostly free! But then I am old.

kastiekastie · 29/10/2017 21:54

Gog syndrome. Grumpy Old Git. Tickets aren't supposed to be transferred generally, neither were we ever supposed to tape off the radio - I see it as a rule made to be broken...

cardibach · 29/10/2017 22:21

Last time I did this it was after a mammogram. They had sited the breast clinic van in a car park a little distance from the main shopping area which only had the option for all day parking and there were big signs saying those attending the clinic must display a ticket. I paid the fee and was in the van for about 15 minutes. When I came out I gave my ticket to the next woman arriving. Didn’t think it was right she should have to fork out all that just to have her tits squashed.

aspoonfulofyourownmedicine · 30/10/2017 01:04

I didn't know it was illegal either :/ has anyone actually found anything to back this up? I've passed on tickets before, and been given them and have used them myself. I've always seen it as a 'good deed of the day' sort of thing. Unfortunately, most of our car parks are council owned and they all have machines where you have to input your registration number in. It prickles me still that on the 'north' side of the river where I live, you can pay £4.00 for an all day ticket and park in ANY of the coastal car parks along the seafront between point A and point B using same parking ticket (I usually use the 'Ringo' app and pay on my card so don't have a paper ticket), yet on the 'South' side of the river where I live, you have to pay in each car park (well at least I haven't seen any signs like there is on the north side)

I also leave finished daysaver tickets on the machines for our local metro rail service - I've paid for 'someone' to travel, whether it be me, my husband, son etc and once I'm finished with it at say 5pm, it's still technically valid until midnight of that day. The do say Non-transferable, but if it helps someone that little bit, I don't really care .

LadyB49 · 30/10/2017 22:28

Today I had no small change and had to put in £1 which got me give hours. I was back in a half hour. Happy have been able to pass on my 4.5 hours.

Creamswirls · 30/10/2017 23:01

IT'S NOT ILLEGAL

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