I apologise in advance about the detail. I need help.
I don't know what is 'normal'
Been married almost 2 years, no kids. We are both in our twenties. We both work.
We do it about twice a week. Sometimes three times if I'm lucky. I understand he works severely long hours and is tired most evenings, but he hates doing it in the morning, weekdays or weekends. He doesn't go down on me, and never really does anything spontaneous sexually. I can tell he doesn't enjoy fingering me either, as he wipes his fingers like they're dirty when he's done.
Sometimes if I dress sexy and put on makeup he will say 'I'm tired, I feel under pressure to have sex now'..
he is a little overweight but I don't care about that, I try to make him feel like the sexiest man alive and have no reservations sexually.
When we do it though, I do enjoy it, but it feels like it's to fill a need rather than a chemistry. And frankly, I need it more often than this. AIBU to want to do it more often?! Or is this normal?