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[PostcodeJack]

I've just found out that my sister inlaw pays for everything in their household, including my brother's mortgage.
Background is that she put 50% down and my brother took a mortgage after his deposit. Sister in law is now paying HIS mortgage, all bills and doing the housework when she gets home. How the fuck is this fair?

hiddley

Give it a rest, its getting boring now. If you think the OP is a troll then report and if its a reverse....so what?! The answers would be the same either way so what difference does it make to you?

You're being a little dopey here OP. You just said 'she's bailing out'. That was not part of your original story. It was the spread of the finances (not in her favour). Then you have intimate details of what 'she' brought to the table and the division of the finances (as they have both come to you) and are on here in the early hours of the morning to tell us all.

You sound very bitter for a sister-in-law.

I never said he was a troll.

Because you seem to be implying is ok that he is spending all his money on himself and she is spending all of hers (and struggling by the sound of it) on mortgage, bills and kids.

And that isnt ok at all in my world!

Pyong. How do you know this money is being kept by one party (the brother?). The OP never stated that.

And don't forget the prior to marriage kids too Pyong.

How do you know this money is being kept by one party (the brother?). The OP never stated that.

Ahem....

'the bit where she pays for everything and my brother keeps his cash'

zzzzz Seems one of them didn't. Especially since they have children from outside the marriage, you'd think they'd have thought their shit through.

'the bit where she pays for everything and my brother keeps his cash'

Didn't read that bit.

Sigh.....yes Zzzz and thats how it works in my marriage, but the whole point of this thread is that the money ISNT joint. They keep seperate accounts, which many couples do, but instead of it being fair in terms of outgoings and disposable income, it is grossly unfair. Thats sort of what the OP was trying to say..........

Perhaps an annulment is in order as one party (the SIL) didn't realise what she was entering into?

Don't swear at me. Really don't.

Have you told her she should divorce him?

Its not fair. But seems to be depressingly common from reading stuff on here anyway

Tortoise. Thank you. Wanted an opinion which zzz also provided and kipper for which I'm grateful. Apologies if I left Anyone out x

You just left the last question out by heebiejeebie.

Have you told her she should divorce him?

She'd surely get half of all the marital assets and not be out of pocket. She could still look after her children out of the marriage. Won't have to be paying for everything? What do you think?