Sex and new relationship

[thedarkprincess]

I’ve been with my new boyfriend for nearly two months. It’s my first relationship after my marriage ended several years ago and he’s really lovely and special.

However we haven’t had sex yet. We’ve slept together and done other things and so there’s no doubt we fancy each other - but no actual sex. He doesn’t seem in a rush and says we can take our time and o agree with that, but there’s still a part of me that thinks at the start of a relationship we should be at it like rabbits?
But then the last time I was at the start of a relationship I was 21 and now I’m 44.
We both work long hours and he’s got children who he sees a couple of nights a week. So we see each other once a week.
Is it normal to wait like this?

You've answered your own question there then princess lol

Never once would have said there was anything WRONG. You can't compare your relationship to others, every one is different. Just enjoy it, especially if it makes you happy

Fingers crossed he puts out tomorrow then😁 I think he will.
My dh was like this it was six weeks, I was beginning to wonder if something was 'off' also but he was just really slow off the blocks. Mixture of nerves, manners (misplaced as it happens)! He had progressed to hand holding on date 3, 😳, anyway it was fine once we had cracked the seal as it were😁

TBH I'd assume he has erectile disfunction unless you have proof otherwise? You say you've "slept together" yet not had sex? Unless one or both of you have been so inebriated it's not possible to have sex, this seems really odd. And you say he has kids but insinuate they're not around. If so I'd run for the hills. Find someone more equal.

Do you think he might be worried about the contraception side of things?

@MMcanny have you actually read the thread?

Booblemcb no, couldn't be bothered! I'm going to have to now though!

Ok. Having now read the full thread. Maybe he's trans and 'his' penis doesn't actually work properly? Maybe he has aids or some other std he doesn't want to give you? You've only met ten times though so he could just be of the impression you'll think more of him if you wait? I really don't understand the going to bed together but not having full piv though. If it doesn't happen soon I would be asking questions. It's odd. Your intuition is right!

Oh good god. OP it’s all fine so stop panicking. It’s early days and some men are just more interested in getting to know you, getting used to your body and generally not just after sex. It doesn’t mean they have erectile dysfunction or trans or any bloody thing other than a really nice guy and a good catch.

My best friend is in a relationship with someone similar. They’ve been together for several months now and have only recntky had penetrative sex. They too work full time in demanding jobs, have long commutes and live some distance from each other. They both waited because they wanted to get used to their relationship because it was important to them. It’s all too easy for long distance relationships to just be about sex. They didn’t want that and maybe he doesn’t either.

Not every man is desperate for sex.