Am I a Victorian pearl clutcher or is this rude?

[LazySusan11]

At a hotel went for breakfast met other colleagues and on the table next to us is another lady, she’s got her iPad propped up on the table watching an episode of something..without headphones. No awareness of others around her that she might be disturbing me this isn’t normal is it?

I’m in hotels a lot and more and more people are doing this sort of thing. Are headphones suddenly obsolete?

Say something next time. She may be unaware how annoying it is. I had to tell a young girl who was noisily FaceTiming a friend in a cafe last week. She did lower the noise level —a bit—

Mild Cowbag behaviour fave new phrase 😂

Surely she needs a PRS licence for that?

yes, I think this is becoming normal, I heard in one place (staying for work) it's because they see it as no different than hearing the buzz of conversation.

I find it immensely irritating too but I suppose they are saying "if one type of noise is okay, why isn't another"?

I think it's basic consideration to use headphones too but there you are. We've had a poster here who said she facetimes her mum on the bus without. I said if I'm sitting next to her on the bus i'm going to join in the chat. I can't ignore it so I might as well!

Maybe we should pull up a chair by the TV watchers and just say, I thought it was for all of us to watch? innocent face

On the train yesterday - group of teenage lads with their music turned up - did the "dinner-lady-eyebrow-raise" (was a dinner lady 10 years ago!) from 3 seats away - YESSSSSSS! shamed them into stopping!

So OP- you don't need to do PA stuff - just cultivate the direct eye contact with eyebrow raise - I'm sure teachers/doctors/dentists/etc/etc use it too - it made me chuckle to see "the power"...

Seriously so rude. It's incredibly rude to play your music/tv show etc out loud in a public space. Use earphones or don't watch it. Same goes for the cunts on buses playing their music out loud. Honestly lose respect for them instantly.

@WomblingThree it is invented tinnitus purely for these occasions. Ie if the Rude Cowbag thinks there is something wrong with ME she is more likely to change her behaviour than if I say the problem is with HER (ie that she is rude). Hope that makes sense not sure I have explained too well.

Some people just have no idea how to behave anymore do they?

paradisecity I'm surprised it works. Does anyone ever come back with a 'that's your problem' response?

YANBU. It's antisocial.

This is quite rude in a public place. Even with earphones on. Can't people just read a book or even just eat their breakfast. What's wrong with people these days that they need to be entertained for every nanosecond.

Someone was doing this on the tube yesterday. Hate it. It's so rude. But it seems to be increasingly the norm.

what happens if the person next to them on the tube starts doing it with theirs as well - do they each have to keep turning up the volume to drown the other out until they get to stalemate and nobody can hear anything but incomprehensible ipad noise?

(and yes I suppose that can be true of loudly talking neighbours on the tube/in a restaurant as well!)

Someone was doing this on the bus yesterday. All I could hear was a bad karaoke song so must have been a video or something. They were a few rows behind me so I couldn’t actually see.

Also annoying was the woman I was sat next to, she spent the thirty minutes journey fluffing her hair, looking in the mirror , rummaging in her bag and taking pouty selfies.

It wouldn't be acceptable to sit there listening to music without headphone - this is no different. It is very rude and sadly more and more people are doing it.
I would have asked her to turn off the sound!!!

Very rude. My DD travels a lot for business and watches many episodes (downloaded legally and above board) of stuff on her ipad when having meals, on trains/planes etc.but always wearing headphones.

It's rude, yes.

My older male colleague (old school, there there dear let’s not make a fuss type) shushed me when I said “oh are headphones no longer appropriate in public” and gave lady a pointed stare.

So common on public transport. No-one complains because it's usually the local hood kicking up authority. I give them a Paddington Bear stare, but am not brave enough to make more fuss.

I was in a fairly swish cocktail bar recently and some woman did the same thing. The general noise of people chatting and glasses clinking was spoiled by her stupid TV show. So I asked her to turn it down.

She looked really surprised and shocked, as if she hadn't even realised it was max volume and immediately complied

Screens are like a drug to lots of people. They live their life in a little bubble of unreality.

Seriously adults are doing this now?

Well then the worlds going to shit in a handcart!

It's bloody annoying enough when children have to be plugged into the sodding things 24/7 but adults come on seriously!?

Before anyone has a go at me yes I have children I have 5 and 3 of them are disabled and autistic but when we go out to eat even the oldest 2(who are now grown men)wouldn't be messing with they're phones let alone annoying other diners with noise spilling out of an ipad.

Chatting and laughing is part of the atmosphere in somewhere like a hotel restaurant.
This is incredibly rude yanbu

It's incredibly rude and it would annoy me that the hotel staff didn't have a quiet word with their client.

I remember asking a man on the tube if he could use headphones to listen to his blaring music. He told me to f* off and said "don't listen then". When I asked him how I could not listen to his music on a tube carriage when he and his phone is in the seat opposite, he started to shout at me about the price of his £4000 suit (yeah right..), how I couldn't afford it, and to look at his suit, look at it and dream.

I think we have to regard people who do this, and let their children do it, not just as rude, but downright thick.