To split the cost evenly - more of a WWYD

[PavlovianLunge]

I recently went on holiday abroad with a group of family members, self-catering for a couple of weeks. For spends, I offered to put everything on a credit card I have, which doesn't get charged for foreign currency transactions, and let people know the cost after conversion to £; everyone was happy with this.

The bill has come in, and the issue I've got is whether or not to split it evenly. One of the group is coming up to 18, and drank very little alcohol, where the others were drinking wine and beer, and there was also one bottle of gin and one of vodka bought. On the other hand, she had things that none of the others had, but soft drinks, snack bars and sweets, which obviously cost less than alcohol.

I've now got to sort out money for the credit card bill, and I need to let the under-18's parent (who was there) know the amount. At an equal split, it would be about £200 each. My inclination is to either split evenly, or to knock something off for the under-18, maybe £50, and divide the rest between the adults, but I'd be interested to know what others think or have done in a similar situation. (I know we should have talked about it while away.)

To add a slight complication, parts of the family were estranged for 20-some years, and although the holiday went very well, I don't want to do anything that might cause even a little ill-feeling.

Any opinions appreciated, thanks.

I don't think it was a stupid idea, we did the same. It's not a big deal. Easier to split total card bill after the holiday than go through it each night! Everyone happy to pay their share, who wouldn't be? We always split between adults only but whatever suits in that regard.

Pregnant woman should pay, and I say this as someone who had severe pregnancy sickness. Depending on who I was going with I still would have gone, if I was close enough to the people where I wouldn't be embarrassed to be in that state. So I think it was her choice not to go.

When did the pregnant woman pull out? This should have been discussed at that moment.

If she pulled out three weeks ago and the holiday was two weeks ago, sending her a bill for £x next week with no prior discussion might be a surprise!

This is how we would have done it in my family - not everyone has relatives who are total chancers and refuse to pay or quibble over the odd £20 - my family don’t. Don’t tell the Op she’s been stupid when you really don’t know the family dynamics at play...