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Friend and photo frames

48 replies

Bananasplit47 · 25/10/2017 07:36

For my closest friend's recent birthday, I got some (what I thought were) lovely photos of us printed off and got some cute little frames. She seemed to really like them.
I went round to her house the other day and she has taken the photos of us out and replaced them with photos of her with other friends.
AIBU to be upset about this? I know it's a gift and you can do what you want with it once its been given to you, but I don't think I'd do something like this.

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NancyDonahue · 25/10/2017 07:38

Maybe she likes to swap them around regularly? Looking at the same photo all the time can get a bit boring.

Unless she chucked your photo in the bin Wink

MadMags · 25/10/2017 07:39

Has she any photos of the two of you together?!

MonkeyJumping · 25/10/2017 07:40

She may prefer how she looks in the other photos?

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Bananasplit47 · 25/10/2017 07:40

Nancy - it was her birthday last week and I went round two days ago!
Mad mags - not anymore...

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CosmicStrider · 25/10/2017 07:41

I don't think YABU. That would sting a bit. Did she say anything?

Caulk · 25/10/2017 07:42

I agree with PP, maybe she doesn’t like the way she looks? I would have just made a joke of it- “Oi, what happened to the photos of us in those frames! Were you jealous of how amazing I looked?”
Just ask her about it if it’s really bothering you.

Notanumberuser · 25/10/2017 07:42

That’s a bit weird.

NancyDonahue · 25/10/2017 07:44

Ok I didn't realise it was that recent!

I am inclined to agree with she doesn't like the way she looks. I hate 99.9% of photos of me. The only few I like are childhood and a couple of selfies that I had control over.

I would ask her.

Bahhhhhumbug · 25/10/2017 07:46

Well yes you can but it's a tad insensitive isn't it. I thought you were going to say she replaced with pics of her kids or family and was going to say not everyone has pics of friends up in house. But to replace with other friends is a bit ...hmphhh. Maybe she is very fussy about pics of herself l know a few people like this, my dd is one who will delete lots of perfectly nice pics of herself because she thinks she looks miserable/ double chin/ insert whatever. Maybe the pics of her with her other friends are better of her iyswim ? Why don't you mention it lightheartedly in a kind of ' Oh l see l've been taken down from the hall of fame' or ilk and see what she says.

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Bananasplit47 · 25/10/2017 07:47

No, no kids, I would understand replacing it with that but to replace with pics of other friends I found strange

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Bahhhhhumbug · 25/10/2017 07:49

Sorry interrupted whilst typing, x posts with everyone.

Flisspaps · 25/10/2017 07:50

How many frames, and has she replaced all of them?

MadMags · 25/10/2017 07:50

That's very odd. And quite mean, really!

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Bananasplit47 · 25/10/2017 07:52

Three frames, and yes! They weren't massive ones or anything like that, just quirky little frames I'd found that I knew she'd like

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RapunzelsRealMom · 25/10/2017 07:52

That’s not on.

Maybe she didn’t like how she looked (I usually hate pics of me) so she should have put them somewhere else, not on show to everyone.

I’d be terribly hurt. Can’t you ask her why she did this?

Bahhhhhumbug · 25/10/2017 07:53

You need to say something really then , didon't she seem embarrassed? I would be mortified , l once 'recycled' a frame but kept the new subjects pic in it upstairs ( an old out of date pic of a relative) and one day they had cause to go upstairs and their face was a picture ( no pun intended) when they saw it and l was mortified actually.

burntoutmum · 25/10/2017 07:54

I’d be hurt too! My grandma did this a couple of times, I gave her a frame with a pic of my children in and the next time she’d replaced it with a pic of my cousins. It stung a bit!!

MrsExpo · 25/10/2017 07:59

Maybe she thought that the frames were the actual gift and you just put the pics in them rather than give her just empty frames.

Mummyoflittledragon · 25/10/2017 08:01

Wow that’s rude! I could perhaps understand replacing up to two out of the three even though it would sting. But all 3 is cruel.

Mummyoflittledragon · 25/10/2017 08:02

burntoutmum Angry. That’s shit.

FenceSitter01 · 25/10/2017 08:03

I'd find that a really odd present. Sorry. A bit, well 'needy', requiring affirmation that that person was friend, so much so, she needs to live on my mantle. I'd be stepping away, rapidly.

Whambarsarentasfizzyastheywere · 25/10/2017 08:07

Is it just me that thinks it's odd to give someone 3 photos of yourself as a gift?

She obviously just wanted to choose her own photos for her own house, I don't think it's a big deal. She obviously loved the frames as she is using them.

CosmicStrider · 25/10/2017 08:09

@wham I agree giving photos of yourself is a bit odd, but pics of them together, that maybe have specifics memories attached, then that is not weird

MrLovebucket · 25/10/2017 08:10

I'm with MrsExpo, she probably thought it was just a bit of personalised 'background'

I think it's a bit odd to give someone 3 pictures of yourself even if the other person also feature in the photos.

I agree that she probably didn't like how she looked in the picture(s).

I can understand why it would be hurtful for all the photos to be replaced though.

WhyWouldYouThinkThat · 25/10/2017 08:15

I'd find it a really odd if a friend gave me photo frames with pictures of her and I in them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Her switching the photos for photos with her with other friends is also odd and sounds deliberate. It might just mean she didn't like the other photos though rather than her not liking you.

I'm curious how old (approx) you all are?