To object to my friend sticking her finger in DSs mouth??

[Wilkie]

I know it sounds daft but I really don't like it. She is my BF and has a LO 2 weeks younger than mine who is 13 weeks old. Her LO likes to suck her finger rather than a dummy, mine has a dummy and I REALLY object to her sticking her bloody finger in my DSs mouth when he is crying. Why can't she put his dummy in???

She is lovely and I really don't know how to ask her not to do it. Went round the other day and her bloody DH did it too!!!! Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

HairyMclary - Now you mention it I do recall reading that in the US they dont bother because their dishwashers run hot enough to kill germs. I think I blanked it out in my first time mother panic and anxiety.

Thanks! This may save me some time. And I totally agree on the exposing them to germs and building the immune system point.

If you think the finger is bad, I once knew someone who left her dd with a friend babysitting and when she came home the friend said the dd had woken up so she had bf'd her. The mother hit the roof but to the friend it was no big deal. people have different opinions on what is and isn't acceptable. if you don't like it, you should tell her in as friendly and lighthearted a way as possible.

It's quite intimate for someone else's child and probably not very hygienic. Says she who let her DD suck her finger occasionally .

I wouldn't do it to someone else's child though - yeuch. Someone else's DNA on me makes me cringe. My DD's DNA is bad enough.

I would say at 12wks sterilising stuff is still a must .

Sterilising not necessary. Just wash in hot soapy water, rinse, and air dry. Or stick in dishwasher.

that's lucky hatrick because i've put my finger in your dd3's mouth!

i am totally about this. all my dd's loved to suck fingers, dont have a probl;em, with it myself.

yup, have seen those teeth though so won't do it again.

urgh...that would be something I don't like neither...you just don't know where those fingers were...!
I think it's slightly different if it is the aprent...i.e. they are germs they are used too, lol...but someone elses...hm!
I mean, once they crawl and whatnot, then well, they gonna get used to all sorts...but until then...I don't know, jsut wouldn't like that neither!

Just reading a few more messages...now oddly enough, I wouldn't be weirded out by someone else bf'ing any of my Kids, well, when they were still breastfed, lol...as long as I know and trust that person!

i'll stick a cadburys chocolate finger in next time

Teach him to bite. No problem then

as for teh sterilising issue...rtkangamum ( I htink that is her id) used to bump a sterilising tthread up, which mentions that microbiologist now feel sterilising is unecessary, even in prem Baby's...

Ah, another thing to be insouciant about!

hm...hatrick..I wish I could trust that...however, often you are (luckily) not aware what is on your hands...germs are clever lil things, really...
I mean, that friend could have a handbag, and she might put's it down in public loo cubicles and touches it then when picking it up and maybe even put it on tables, and germs spread...germs you never knew there were!
NOw, before you call the people from the lunatic assylum..I am very aware that the human body is more then capable of fending off nasties...well..often anyway But lil ones immunesystem isn't quite as develloped as ours...

i probably shouldn't mention that I've changed ds's nappy on the floor of a public toilet then.
or that he once crawled round one while I was on the loo and started chewing a pipe under the sink.

he's fit as a fiddle though, and it's all because I let him eat the floor

lol....
another point...you don't always know what peoples after loo habits are....
considering how long you actually ahve to wash your hands under pretty hot water, and all that...