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Primary School Teacher Admits to Lying About Bullying - Should She Be Named???

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BMHQ2 · 23/10/2017 03:46

My young son was being bullied repeatedly on a daily basis, including verbal threats from the bully that he was going to kill him, physical abuse including the bully placing his hands around his throat.

This was raised directly with his class teacher. I was assured that they were managing the situation and met with the class teacher daily after school to check on the day's progress and to obtain an update.

At the last meeting she assured me that my son was fine that day and stated there were no problems. My son returned to the classroom and I asked him how was today (class teacher was present). He said the bully kicked him in the peanuts, he was in pain, sent to the office and given a warm washer.

The teacher had blatantly lied, hiding an escalating bullying situation.

I called a meeting with the School's head teacher. The class teacher, agreed with the events above that I have described, thereby indirectly admitting to having lied about the incident. The head teacher was obviously not impressed with her admission. No injury incident note was recorded or sent to me by the school.

If this teacher was teaching your child would you want to know?

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OP posts:
Rheged · 23/10/2017 07:08

Well, quite fencesitter. I’ve been a first aided in a school and at no training course i’ve been on have I heard of washing testicles as a recommended course of action for an injury caused by a kick. An ice pack certainly, but washing in warm water? How would that help?

Pengggwn · 23/10/2017 07:09

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KoalaD · 23/10/2017 07:11

No, I wouldn't want to know, unless my child was directly involved.

Why are you itching to publicly shame the teacher?! Hmm

NotAgainYoda · 23/10/2017 07:14

Read the book 'So you've been publicly shamed' by Jon Ronson. Have a little think about yourself

IWantToSleepNow · 23/10/2017 07:19

Shhhhh et al.

I know - just that this kind of anger may be an unavoidable phase before taking the proper steps to deal with the matter.

I'm not trying to justify the op at all costs nor I think that naming and shaming is the way to go - just that bullying should be taken and punished more seriously.

CauliflowerSqueeze · 23/10/2017 07:20

You posted this exact thing on 4th October but with a shorter “disclaimer”.

Odd??

DressedCrab · 23/10/2017 07:21

Very odd.

MrsJaxTeller · 23/10/2017 07:22

He said the bully kicked him in the peanuts, he was in pain, sent to the office and given a warm washer.

Perhaps this happens at lunchtime/playtime and the teacher wasn't informed buy other staff?

I called a meeting with the School's head teacher

No you never, you asked for a meeting with the HT and were given one. Don't make out you made the HT and teacher attend a meeting you called.

The class teacher, agreed with the events above that I have described, thereby indirectly admitting to having lied about the incident

She never indirectly lied about anything. She agreed that your son had said he was kicked, your twisting events here.

Stop frothing and take a step back, your child has years to go in education, are you going to name and shame ever teacher who you don't like?

As for your disclaimer, that's just hilarious. You can't post on a PUBLIC forum and post a disclaimer like that. Why post it anyway? I await the link to the FB naming and shaming of the poor teacher 🙄

C8H10N4O2 · 23/10/2017 07:22

Any particular reason why you are posting this again under a different topic?

Disclaimer is a joke.

Welcome to Mumsnet BTW. HTH. HAND..

pilates · 23/10/2017 07:26

Yes, sorry Pengggwyn if my post came across that I thought it would be a good idea to name and shame. I do not in any way.

Uokbing · 23/10/2017 07:33

Yes, what the chuff is a 'warm washer'?

AccrualIntentions · 23/10/2017 07:34

How come you've waited 3 weeks since your identical post on 4 October to post this one?

Piggywaspushed · 23/10/2017 07:35

I think a washer is a cloth. Not sure where though? Australia?

Piggywaspushed · 23/10/2017 07:36

It's worked though accrual as we have all bitten this time! AIBU always gets the traffic.

AccrualIntentions · 23/10/2017 07:39

@Piggywaspushed it was the long break between postings that confused me. If I actually wanted advice about something as opposed to fishing for the daily mail I can't imagine why I'd want to wait so long before trying again.

MadMags · 23/10/2017 07:40
Hmm
KoalaD · 23/10/2017 07:42

I think a washer is a cloth. Not sure where though? Australia?

Yep.

We don't put them on kicked ballsacks, though.

Piggywaspushed · 23/10/2017 07:43

accrual oh yep I get it, believe me!

The fact that the first sentence uses the past tense is interesting in itself!

CauliflowerSqueeze · 23/10/2017 07:44

There is no school in the UK that didn’t want to be facing some massive lawsuit that would put warm cloths on a child’s testicles.

FabulouslyGlamorousFerret · 23/10/2017 07:46

I’d love to hear the teachers perspective on this .. maybe you should name and shame her and link her to this thread and then she can tell us her side 😉

Ktown · 23/10/2017 07:48

Eh? You will look bonkers.

Try to work with the school and your child.

Otherwise you will be considered an idiot.

PoundsShillingsPence · 23/10/2017 07:48

No - follow the schools complaints proceedure and don't gossip!!!

CrackedEgg · 23/10/2017 07:49

Oh course you'd want to know! You'd have to be a pretty shitty parent to not want to know.

I'm so confused by your post. I thought you were going to ask if you should put in a formal complaint to the education board or something.

And your disclaimer....what?? Lol

bruffin · 23/10/2017 07:50

I dont think its a fishing post. Some people get obsessed with supposed "slights" and cant help themselves.
There was a poster who used to post every few months about a friend who had told ops small ds off for not eating at the table with everyone else. Same story repeatedly posted. She just wanted people to agree that her friend was wrong siunds like op may be similar

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