To think this wasn't right (would you be ok with it)

[Misspollyhadadollie]

Me and ex were together and had 3 children. When my youngest was a few months old we broke up and I moved out (was his house he owned) anyway we were apart for a year and decided to give it another go, ex was reluctant for us to live together again and wanted to take things slow. Then it became apparent why. He had taken in a lodger, a female. He would tell me things like "she walks around in just a towel" made it clear that she fancied him. One time he was meant to come round and he just never showed up. Instead apparently he was drinking with her. She lived with him for about 6 months and then he told her it was time for her to leave and she kicked up one hell of a fuss which made me believe even more that something went on between them. Anyway things improved but I was very annoyed he has done that and told him so. Anyway I found out he had taken in another lodger. Again another woman. So I ended things. Anyway he keeps trying to get back together but I don't want to and he can't see why. Would you be ok with your partner living with another woman and seeing you and his kids at your house cause there's "no room" for us to go to there??

He's trying to make you jealous in my opinion. I suspect it's all bollocks

these woman are not lodgers.. they are live in Partners... but he can't tell you this .. hence he will not have the kids over at his....

Why waste your time? Just concentrate on the children.

Well, for one thing, I don't mean any woman in just a towel is a tart or that wearing just a towel makes one a tart, but that if I were in the OP's position, that's probably what I'd be thinking about a woman trying to make it clear she fancies my DP.

But thinking about it, no I don't think I've ever wandered around the house in only a towel, in front of anybody I wasn't intimate with, not when lodging and not with lodgers in my house. None of the lodgers we've ever had has done so, either. I wouldn't go through my own house that I own in just a towel if I had visitors in, either. Nobody wants to see that! Everyone has always either worn a dressing gown or just taken a change of clothes in with them, or, if they forgot to bring something in, zipped back to their room. Does that make us all prudes?

To be clear, though, I never said or meant that the lodger is the problem, at all. Just as PP have said, the problem is him, not telling OP about female lodgers, happy to let them flirt with and fancy him, and playing at trying to get back together but definitely not walking the walk.

I think we've got the picture now Polly. He sounds very immature, and if he were a fish, you'd have thrown him straight back !
Don't bother hassling him for the key back, just get the locks changed.
Don't contact him anymore, and when he rings you, keep it short, don't be so readily accommodating of his wishes/demands.
Your life will improve without him, and his twiddle.

*😂 Twaddle = useless/ boring chatter.

Lodger or not, dump him for good.

Change your locks. Don't let him spend time with the children at your place.

He’s an awful dad and not your partner. Get rid

He sounds thoroughly untrustworthy.

I would insist on taking the children over to his and spending your time together over there, rather than him coming to yours ever at all. Make sure you take lots of toys etc too. After all, if you were to get back together, you’d all be living over there with the children and their toys and thigs wouldn’t you?

But, actually, I wouldn’t bother. Just make sure his contact time with the children isn’t at your place.

A female flatmate - no problem.
His comments about female flatmate and not wanting you and kids there - big problem.

Please tell me you aren't sleeping with him....