Have a bit of a tricky situation to resolve.
We normally have a big family
Christmas each year with my Mum's side of the family, and all stay together for a few days. My Mum has two sisters, who she's really close to. One of her sisters (my aunt), hosts Christmas. There are normally around nine of us.
Anyway, since last year (so just for last Christmas so far), my Mum's cousin's son (B) came to stay with his wife and son. He's not at all close to us. He asked my lovely, lovely aunt if he could come last year invited himself, and she said yes.
I really don't mean this to sound harsh, but I'm really tired, and just want to get my point across.
B is quite difficult to be with - he will talk at people about whatever he's interested in, and not let them get a word in edgeways. He does this all the time. Even on phone calls. He'll ring a family member up, and spend there or four hours on the phone with them only talking about stuff that he's interested in.
He also never helps out. Everyone else just pitches in, helps with food shopping and costs, is happy to do so and is aware that this is what is expected. Normally, it's lovely, and I really look forward to Christmas.
B sat back and is waited on. He also never thanked anyone for his Christmas presents we got him. His wife had to thank everyone. We all spent quite a bit of money on him. He bought me a tin of Vaseline. I know it's better to give than to receive etc etc, but it pissed me off that he didn't even say thank you for anything. It was almost like he just assumed that we would put him up, feed him and buy him expensive presents because we're (distant) family.
Anyway.... (sorry -promise I'm getting to the point!) Unfortunately, this year, it's really shit but my aunt's work won't give her any time off. She's 'off' until 4pm on Christmas Eve, I think, and then working on Christmas Day, I think.
AIBU to ask if there's any way that we can ask DAunt whether gently saying to B that he couldn't come would be an option? Or, if B does come, how can I/we manage everything? Just the idea of B coming is really stressing me out.